You are the one you've been waiting for Applying internal family systems to intimate relationships
Book - 2023
"A guide on how to apply the Internal Family Systems therapy model to intimate relationships"--
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Boulder, CO :
Sounds True
2023.
- Language
- English
- Main Author
- Item Description
- Earlier edition published: 2008.
- Physical Description
- 192 pages ; 23 cm
- Bibliography
- Includes bibliographical references.
- ISBN
- 9781683643623
- Acknowledgments
- Introduction
- The Three Projects
- Romantic Rescue: Debbie's Story
- Becoming the Primary Caretaker of Your Parts
- The Self
- Self-to-Self Interaction
- Speaking for Parts
- Chapter 1. Cultural Constraints to Intimacy
- Isolation
- Cultural Pressure for the Romantic Rescue
- Staying Out of the Dark Sea
- The Empty Self
- Another Kind of Happiness
- The Cruel Joke
- Gender Socialization
- Multiplicity Versus the Myth of the Monolithic Personality
- Chapter 2. The Development and Power of Exiles
- The Magical Kitchen Metaphor
- Well-Fed Parts
- How Exiles Develop
- Three Ways Parts Are Exiled
- We Bury Our Joy
- The Power of Exiles
- Finding and Healing Exiles
- Extreme Beliefs about Relationships
- Attachment Theory and Exiles
- Trailheads and Tor-mentors
- Summary
- Solution
- Chapter 3. Courageous Love and Doomed Relationships
- The Neo-Exiles: Parts Exiled by the Relationship
- The Neo-Exiling Power of Abandonment Anxiety
- Courageous Love
- Doomed Relationships
- The Pros, the Antis, and the Unaffected
- Noticing Protectors
- Summary
- Chapter 4. An Example of Growing Toward Self-Leadership
- The Kevin Brady Story
- The Effects of Trauma
- Kevin's Protectors
- Cracked Fortress
- Protector Fears
- Going Inside
- The Suicidal Part
- Helping Exiles Heal
- Helens Work
- The Couples Sessions
- Being the "I" in the Storm
- Speaking For Rather Than From
- Self-Leadership as a Way of Interacting
- Reparations
- Remaining the "I" in the Storm
- When You Are Your Own Primary Caretaker
- Anticipating Trouble
- Partner as Tor-mentor
- Virtuous Cycles
- Chapter 5. Getting Practical: How to Bring in Courageous Love
- Following the Relationship Trailhead
- When a Part Feels Exiled by the Relationship
- When a Part Is Protecting Hurt or Exiled Parts
- When a Part Is Polarized with Another Part
- Revealing Your Parts
- Self-to-Self Discussions
- Chapter 6. The Whole Picture
- Conflict
- Intimacy
- Good Luck
- Resources
- Notes
- Bibliography
- About the Author