Raising girls How to help your daughter grow up happy, healthy, and strong

Steve Biddulph

Book - 2014

Instructs parents on how to raise daughters of sound character who know that they are loved and can stand up for themselves and others.

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Published
Berkeley. CA : Ten Speed Press 2014.
Language
English
Main Author
Steve Biddulph (-)
Edition
First US Edition
Physical Description
viii, 216 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9781607745754
  • A Letter from Steve
  • Meet Kaycee and Genevieve
  • Part 1. The Five Stages of Girlhood
  • Chapter 1. Creating a Total Girl
  • Chapter 2. Right from the Start (Birth to Two Years)
  • Chapter 3. Learning to Explore (Two to Five Years)
  • Chapter 4. Getting Along with Others (Five to Ten Years)
  • Chapter 5. Finding Her Soul (Ten to Fourteen Years)
  • Chapter 6. Preparing for Adulthood (Fourteen to Eighteen Years)
  • Part 2. Hazards and Helps: The Five Big Risk Areas and How to Navigate Them
  • Chapter 7. Too Sexy Too Soon
  • Chapter 8. Mean Girls
  • Chapter 9. Bodies, Weight, and Food
  • Chapter 10. Alcohol and Other Drugs
  • Chapter 11. Girls and the Online World
  • Part 3. Girls and Their Parents
  • Chapter 12. Girls and Their Moms
  • Chapter 13. Girls and Their Dads
  • What Happened to Kaycee?
  • Postscript
  • Author's Notes
  • Contributors and Acknowledgments
  • Index
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Psychologist Biddulph (Raising Boys) comes around to the other half of the parenting challenge by taking on the challenges most pressing to today's girls: sexuality, bullying, weight and food issues, alcohol and drugs, and interacting online. His recommended parenting approach consists of close monitoring of media, friendships, and activities; being a good role model; mentorship by a trusted female adult ("auntie"); and serving as a loving mentor, but not an enabling friend. Biddulph sees the foundation for girl's strong self-esteem and healthy sexuality as beginning in the earliest years. He offers a guide to girls' psychological growth broken down by five stages: birth, where security needs come first; toddlerhood, where enjoyment of the world is paramount; the early school years, where people skills are learned; soul-searching preteen years; and the teen years of learning to navigate life responsibly and with purpose. In addition to giving general advice, Biddulph spends time on issues that affect girls disproportionately: the complex social hierarchies in female friendships, damaging media influence, and eating disorders. The book offers solid, compassionate advice for parents who want to teach their daughters to be empowered within a culture that can belittle them. (Mar.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

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A Letter from Steve Dear Reader, It's amazing what you learn about yourself. Twenty years ago, when we were expecting our second child, friends naturally asked what we were hoping for, a boy or a girl? I always said I didn't mind, and I really believed that was true. We already had a boy of seven, and we were very eager simply to have another child. We had planned on having a homebirth, but it ended as an emergency caesarian--that's what we do every time in our family! So I found myself standing in the operating room, trying my best not to faint. Then from Shaaron's belly the medical team pulled a slippery bundle, and somebody said, "Well done, you've got a little girl!" Suddenly I was crying. And laughing. And jumping around. I was, in short, incredibly happy. I hadn't realized how much I wanted a daughter. I was holding her and looking at her for hours afterward, just amazed. That was all those years ago, and the feeling hasn't gone away. Daughters evoke such strong feelings in us--protectiveness, awe, hope, and fear, but mostly just a fierce love and a wish to give them the best possible life. * * * For more than twenty years, I had a specialty in boys and men. It wasn't a choice so much as a mission--back then, boys were a disaster zone, and urgently in need of help. I wrote the world's top-selling book on raising boys, with a simple message that they needed to be strongly loved and firmly taught how to be good men, that they needed positive role models, and that their energy wasn't a bad thing. Back then, girls were doing fine. Then, in the mid-2000s, that started to change. We began to see a sudden and marked plunge in girls' mental health, first in the United States but quickly spreading across the world. Problems such as eating disorders and self-harm, which had once been extremely rare, were now happening in every school and on almost every street. But more than this, the average girl, everygirl, was stressed and depressed in a way we hadn't seen before. Girls aren't born hating their own bodies. They aren't born angry at life. Something was happening in the culture that was poisoning girls' spirits. It seemed to come on as they entered their teens, but it was creeping up on them younger and younger. In response, a worldwide movement sprang up--of girl advocates, therapists, and researchers--to try to mobilize parents and the community. Many of these people were my friends, and together we saw the need for a simple parent-friendly book to help get girlhood back on track. Raising strong girls starts far, far back, when they are tiny or toddlers, or just in elementary school. We have to love them well, and we have to fight the big world, too, since the predators that want to bring our daughters down are everywhere; they wear suits and make good money and have no conscience at all. The choices we make in the way we raise our daughters can help keep their spirits alive and their self-belief strong, even when the world sends a very different message. Girlhood is a quest, a journey of gathering the wisdom needed to be a woman. We are our daughters' guides on that quest. We need good maps, good stories, and clear eyes. What could be more awesome than to see your daughter standing tall, wise, and strong at twenty-five or forty, and knowing that you helped to make her so? And what could be more worthwhile than to fight for a world that is open for all young girls, wherever they are born, to be able to realize their dreams? I hope this book thrills you and helps you pass on to your daughter all the love you feel. Warmly, Steve Biddulph Excerpted from Raising Girls: How to Help Your Daughter Grow up Happy, Healthy, and Strong by Steve Biddulph All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.