Punishment-free parenting

Jon Fogel

Book - 2025

"One day Jon Fogel found himself screaming at his toddler son, and he knew something had to change. It wasn't just that he needed to figure out how best to parent his little boy, but that he also needed understand and redirect his own emotions. This moment put Fogel on a path towards wholeness: understanding his whole self, learning about the whole brain, caring for the whole person, becoming a whole parent. In a few short years, Jon became an inspiration to over a million parents around the world who were striving to be the best parents they could be too. Now with The Whole Parent, Fogel, a father of three, pastor, and parenting educator, brings to parents the hard-won insights from his research and work as a parenting coach. In ...easily-digestible prose and with compassionate insight, Fogel offers moms and dads a clear path to their own wholeness as parents-from learning to recognize and name their own emotional triggers to responding to children with a more keen awareness of their developmental processes"--

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Published
New York, NY : Convergent [2025]
Language
English
Main Author
Jon Fogel (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
pages cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9780593735466
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Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

This empathetic debut manual from Fogel, host of the Whole Parent podcast and a father of four, warns against using fear-based parenting strategies. He contends that punishment is counterproductive because it incentivizes children to care more about whether they'll get caught than about the problematic behavior itself. Instead, parents should strive to understand why their child acts out, because misbehavior usually stems from unmet needs. For example, Fogel describes how his toddler refused to follow their morning routine until his wife realized the tantrums stemmed from hunger (despite the child's protestations that he didn't want to eat) and were resolved by serving breakfast earlier. No punishment doesn't mean no consequences, Fogel asserts, adding that they should be directly related to the offense and the reasons for them clearly communicated. To illustrate, he recounts how after he discovered one of his sons drawing with a Sharpie on their new deck, he clarified the rules for proper Sharpie usage and enlisted his son's help in sandpapering the marker off the deck. The guidance is compassionate, and Fogel's exhortation "to extend to ourselves the same grace and forgiveness that we aspire to extend to our children" will help readers work through their own emotional baggage. Parents will find this a balm. Agent: Kathleen Kerr, Alive Literary. (Jan.)

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