Dateable Swiping right, hooking up, and settling down while chronically ill and disabled

Jessica Slice

Book - 2024

"Disabled people date, have casual sex, marry, and parent. Yet, our romantic lives of are conspicuously absent from the media and cultural conversation. Sexual education does not typically address the specific information needed by disabled teens. Mainstream dating apps fail to include disability as an aspect of one's identity alongside race, ethnicity, gender identity, and sexual orientation. The few underutilized disability-focused apps are paternalistic and unappealing. Bestselling dating books do not address disability, and the few relationship books marketed to disabled people focus on the mechanics of sex rather than the complex interactions that create the conditions for it. In Dateable, disabled author and essayist Jessica... Slice and disabled bioethicist and progressive faith leader Caroline Cupp team up to address the serious gap in the dating space. A dating guide made especially for disabled and chronically ill people, that calls in able bodied readers, Dateable is the first book on disabled dating and relationships. Slice and Cupp take on everything from Rom Com representation to dating apps to sex and breakups with a strong narrative underpinning and practical advice. The book is as much a practical tool as it is an empowering guide"--

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Subjects
Published
New York, NY : Hachette Go 2024.
Language
English
Main Author
Jessica Slice (author)
Other Authors
Caroline Cupp (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
288 pages ; 23 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9780306832734
  • Introduction
  • Chapter 1. Representation and Respect
  • Chapter 2. We're Hot*
  • Chapter 3. Am I (Un)dateable?
  • Chapter 4. Ugh, Apps
  • Chapter 5. Meeting Up
  • Chapter 6. Sex
  • Chapter 7. Breakups
  • Chapter 8. Safety
  • Chapter 9. Ethical Nonmonogamy
  • Chapter 10. Queer & Crip
  • Chapter 11. Partnering Up
  • Chapter 12. Caregiving
  • Chapter 13. Money
  • Chapter 14. S*?! (Ahem, Stuff) People Say
  • A Note from Us
  • Acknowledgments
  • Resources
  • Notes
  • Index
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Essayist Slice and minister Cupp (coauthors of the picture book This Is How We Play) team up for a noteworthy relationship guide for disabled people. Drawing on personal experience (Slice's dysautonomia began at 28, and Cupp was born with cerebral palsy) and enlightening interviews with people across the ability spectrum, the authors tackle such challenges as disclosing one's disability on dating apps, discussing caregiver duties with partners, and having sex in spite of physical limitations. The guidance takes a flexible rather than prescriptive approach--for instance, the chapter on sex advises readers to "expand what sex means" beyond penetrative intercourse and experiment with new strategies, positions, and devices. Other sections explore the intersection between disability and queerness and the higher incidence of sexual assault against disabled people. Throughout, the authors are candid about the difficulties of dating in a society that prizes "spontaneity... and effortlessness" yet is riddled with access limitations for those with disabilities. With plenty of useful tips, stories, and encouragement for readers to fashion their own approaches, this is a valuable resource. (July)

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