F the fairy tale : rewrite the dating myths and live your own love story

F the fairy tale Rewrite the dating myths and live your own love story

Damona Hoffman

Book - 2024

"Have you ever dismissed a potential date because they didn't check off all of your "must-have" boxes? Have you ever decided there would be no second date because you didn't feel sparks fly right away? Many modern daters are stuck playing by old and outdated rules that no longer reflect the world we live in. To find love that lasts, TV host, podcaster, and love expert Damona Hoffman encourages readers to break free of the myths that no longer serve us in the twenty-first century-and to write our own love stories. In F the Fairy Tale, Hoffman draws on twenty years of experience as a dating coach to bust four common myths-The List Myth, the Rules Myth, the Chemistry Myth, and the Soulmate Myth. She replaces those myth...s with the four pillars necessary to build lasting love: goals, values, communication, and trust. Hoffman pulls from close to two decades of experience as a dating expert, coupled with a trove of data from OkCupid and other dating sites. And she doesn't just tell readers what to do or not to do - she explains why. Using questions received from her podcast and her LA Times advice column, Hoffman thoughtfully explores the psychological and social factors behind our behavior, helping us break free of old habits for good. F the Fairy Tale gives readers the tools they need to choose the right partner and establish a solid foundation for love"--

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Subjects
Dating (Social customs)
courtships.
Published
New York : Seal Press 2024.
Language
English
Main Author
Damona Hoffman (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
viii, 295 pages ; 22 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9781541602250
  • Introduction
  • Chapter 1. Myths & Pillars
  • Part I. The Mindset
  • Chapter 2. The List Myth
  • Chapter 3. The Goals Pillar
  • Chapter 4. F the List, Fix Your Mindset
  • The Mindset Action Steps
  • Part II. The Search
  • Chapter 5. The Rules Myth
  • Chapter 6. The Values Pillar
  • Chapter 7. F the Rules, Fix Your Search
  • The Search Action Steps
  • Part III. The Date
  • Chapter 8. The Chemistry Myth
  • Chapter 9. The Communication Pillar
  • Chapter 10. F Chemistry, Fix Your Dates
  • The Date Action Steps
  • Part IV. The Future
  • Chapter 11. The Soulmate Myth
  • Chapter 12. The Trust Pillar
  • Chapter 13. F Soulmates, Fix Your Future
  • The Future Action Steps
  • Chapter 14. Where Do We Go from Here?
  • Acknowledgments
  • References
  • Index
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

According to this canny debut guide, today's singles are hampered by beliefs that have become outdated in a technological age marked by increased choice, an expanded dating pool, and impersonal, round-the-clock communication. Among other myths, dating coach Hoffman debunks the idea that one must rely on an elusive "spark" for connection (readers should instead work on improving communication on- and offline), the tendency to seek a laundry list of ideal qualities in a potential match (it's smarter to prioritize three must-haves and one dealbreaker), and the hope for one true soulmate, which "prevents us from moving into a fulfilling, committed relationship." Offering plenty of useful nuts-and-bolts advice (including 10 "texting commandments" and tips for virtual dates), Hoffman strikes a tone that's sympathetic but not patronizing. She reassures readers that "even if it feels like you'll never meet your person, statistically speaking you probably will," though it might "take a little longer than it took your parents or grandparents and your partnership may look different than theirs." Those who've grown sick of aimlessly swiping will find hope. Agent: Joanna Volpe, New Leaf Literary. (Jan.)

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