The measure of our age Navigating care, safety, money, and meaning later in life

M. T. Connolly

Book - 2023

"An elder justice expert uncovers the failures in the systems that are supposed to protect us as we age, and provides a battle plan for families and policy-makers to counter the greed and incompetence. Between 1900 and 2000, Americans gained, on average, thirty years of life. That dazzling feat allowed tens of millions of Americans to reach the once-rare age of 85, now the fastest-growing age group. The bad news: For millions of Americans, the Golden Years are appallingly tarnished, leaving them and those who love them at a loss for what to do. More than 34 million family members care for an older relative for "free," but with costs to them in time, money, jobs, and health. Countless seniors are targeted by scammers and make ...riskier decisions about care, housing, money, and driving due to cognitive decline. And epidemics of isolation and loneliness make older people unnecessarily vulnerable to all sorts of harm. These problems touch millions of families regardless of class, race or gender. Today, one in ten older Americans is neglected or exploited with devastating results. And the systems supposed to safeguard them-like nursing homes, guardianship, Adult Protective Services, and criminal prosecution-often make problems worse. Weaving first-person accounts, her own unrivaled experience, and shocking investigative reporting across the worlds of medicine, law, finance, social services, caregiving, and policy, MT Connolly exposes a reality that has been long hidden-and sometimes actively covered up. But things are not hopeless. Along with diagnosing the ailments, she gives readers better tools to navigate the many challenges of aging-whether adult children caring for aging parents, policy-makers trying to do the right thing, or, should we be so lucky to live to old age, all of us"--

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Published
New York, NY : PublicAffairs 2023.
Language
English
Main Author
M. T. Connolly (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
373 pages ; 25 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9781541702721
  • Prologue: The Oxbow and the Ice Floe
  • Part I. Challenges
  • 1. Care
  • 2. Health
  • 3. Facilities
  • 4. Home
  • 5. Money
  • 6. The Autonomy-Safety Conundrum
  • 7. Lagging Norms
  • Part II. Downstream, Upstream
  • 8. Who to Call?
  • 9. Forensics
  • 10. Parents' Keepers?
  • 11. Harm and Healing
  • Part III. Change
  • 12. New Models
  • 13. Law
  • 14. Movement
  • 15. Mystery and Meaning
  • Epilogue: Consolations
  • Resources
  • Author's Note on Names, Terms, and Sources
  • Acknowledgments
  • Notes
  • Bibliography
  • Index
Review by Kirkus Book Review

A book about growing old and the indignities--many of them avoidable--that aging entails. Connolly, former head of the U.S. Department of Justice's Elder Justice Initiative, opens with the observation that in the 20th century, Americans added 30 years to their average life spans. Technology has helped, with family connections maintained by Zoom calls, uncooperative hips and knees easily replaced, and so forth, so that "for millions of people, there has never been a better time to be old." People in their 70s report being happier than ever in the lives. Then come the 80s, when, as Connolly observes, some three-quarters of people suffer some "functional disability" that drastically reduces quality of life. Many of the attendant phenomena are structural and can be changed. However, most elder care is provided by unpaid family members, such as spouses and adult children, at an estimated annual loss of $522 billion in potential income. Those caregivers are often untrained, while facilities sometimes prey on patients. Regarding the latter, Connolly urges stronger policing and punishment, and she argues against the common practice of assigning full guardianship to non--family members. As she writes, many of the societal woes that the elderly face are intersectional: Women face both ageism and sexism, while older minority members face racism and economic discrimination--to say nothing of worse institutional care generally, as the demographics of Covid-19 deaths in nursing homes attest. Throughout this lucid and thought-provoking treatise, Connolly offers thoughts on ways of improving life for the elderly, ranging from living in mixed-age communities rather than seniors-only retirement enclaves to applying psychotropic drugs to the treatment of anxiety and depression in hopes of finding "ways that mind-altering substances might alter the course of mind-altering diseases." A book that deserves wide attention and discussion among aging readers and those who care for them. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.