Between us How cultures create emotions

"Many of the answers about emotions are not to be found in our insides, but importantly, in our social contexts," contends Mesquita, a psychology professor at the University of Leuven, Belgium, in her dazzling debut. Arguing that "we primarily have emotions in order to adjust to changes in our relationship with the (social) world," the author uses social psychology and eye-opening case studies to examine the cultural, political, and economic factors that influence what people feel. Mesquita lays out two ways of thinking about emotions: MINE ("Mental, INside the person, and Essentialist") and OURS ("OUtside the person, Relational, and Situated"). She suggests that Western cultures tend to take the MINE approach while OURS predominates everywhere else, and she cites a study that found Japanese Olympic athletes emphasized the relational aspect of emotions more than their American counterparts in interviews. Exploring how parents instruct children in emotional norms, Mesquita describes how Minangkabau people in West Sumatra shame kids when they break a norm and how Bara people in Madagascar teach the young to fear displeasing ancestral spirits so that the children comply with authority. The bounty of case studies captivates and makes a strong argument that social conditions have the power to dictate how one expresses and experiences emotions. The result is a bracing and bold appraisal of how feelings develop. (July)

Emotions have long been considered internal feelings common to all humans. Not so, according to this insightful analysis. Born and raised in Holland, a professor in the U.S. for 20 years, and now the director of the Center for Social and Cultural Psychology in Leuven, Belgium, Mesquita has learned that her emotions--or anyone's emotions--are not part of some kind of universal default. As the author shows, outside of WEIRD (Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, and Democratic) cultures, "talking about our emotions as internal experiences is quite exceptional in the world. People in many cultures talk about emotions as more 'public, social, and relational'…as acts in the social and moral world." In other words, "emotions are OURS as much as they are MINE." For skeptical readers, Mesquita delivers a few interesting jolts. We take for granted that expressing emotions is psychologically healthy. Even non-Freudian experts agree that suppressing one's feelings leads to neuroticism, misery, or worse. Yet it turns out that "authenticity"--expressing one's inner feelings--is a virtue in WEIRD society and almost nowhere else. In much of Africa and Asia, it's a sign of immaturity. "Calmness is a preferred emotion in a culture that expects you to put the group's needs above your own," and this is largely the norm outside the West. In Buddhist teachings, expressing negative feelings exacerbates them, so mature adults remain detached in the face of suffering or frustration. Mesquita maintains that much scientifically confirmed psychology does not survive exposure to other cultures. "Bridging cultural differences in emotions," she writes, "will require you to do the hard work of unpacking the emotional episodes….Unpacking emotional episodes means to humanize the people who live through them." Countless words regarding emotions fail to translate across language barriers. For example, Japanese employs the same word for shame and embarrassment, and Polish lacks a word for disgust. An astute psychological study of emotions around the world. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.