Dele weds Destiny

Tomi Obaro, 1990-

Large print - 2022

Funmi, Enitan, and Zainab first meet at university in Nigeria and become friends for life despite their differences. Funmi is beautiful, brash, and determined; Enitan is homely and eager, seeking escape from her single mother's smothering and needy love; Zainab is elegant and reserved, raised by her father's first two wives after her mother's death in childbirth. Their friendship is complicated but enduring, and over the course of the novel, the reader learns about their loves and losses. How Funmi stole Zainab's boyfriend and became pregnant, only to have an abortion and lose the boyfriend to police violence. How Enitan was seduced by an American Peace Corps volunteer, the only one who ever really saw her, but is cultur...ally so different from him--a Connecticut WASP--that raising their daughter together put them at odds. How Zainab fell in love with her teacher, a friend of her father's, and ruptured her relationship with her father to have him. Now, some thirty years later, the three women are reunited for the first time, in Lagos. The occasion: Funmi's daughter, Destiny, is getting married. Enitan brings her American daughter, Remi. Zainab travels by bus, nervously leaving her ailing husband in the care of their son. Funmi, hosting the weekend with her wealthy husband, wants everything to go perfectly. But as the big day approaches, it becomes clear that something is not right. As the novel builds powerfully, the complexities of the mothers' friendship--and the private wisdom each has earned--come to bear on a riveting, heartrending moment of decision. Dele Weds Destiny is a sensational debut from a dazzling new voice in contemporary fiction.

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Domestic fiction
Romance fiction
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Published
New York : Random House Large Print [2022]
Language
English
Main Author
Tomi Obaro, 1990- (author)
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First large print edition
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355 pages ; 24 cm
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Review by Booklist Review

Funmi, Enitan, and Zainab were inseparable friends at university despite their vastly different upbringings and temperaments. While their friendship remains strong, it has been more than 30 years since the three were in the same room together. When the trio reunites to celebrate the wedding of Funmi's daughter in Lagos, it soon becomes clear that all is not well, and the three friends must revisit their pasts to protect their children's futures. Obaro's debut novel immerses the reader in the highs and lows of being a Nigerian. She skillfully provides enough context for readers outside of the culture while also writing for Nigerian readers who will see themselves, their mothers, and their aunties in the three protagonists. The three women are complex characters with satisfying arcs, and each displays a different aspect of the diverse groups that make up Nigerian society. But the beauty of the novel lies in their friendship and the complexities of the mother-daughter relationships. A perfect choice for fans of Tayari Jones and Bernardine Evaristo.

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Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Three Nigerian college friends reunite after decades in this lush if busy debut. In 2015, wealthy Funmi Akingbola invites her best friends to the wedding of her medical student daughter, Destiny, in Lagos. Enitan, who eloped to America with a white man she is now divorcing, arrives with her own college-age daughter, Remi. Zainab, a Muslim caring for her husband after a series of strokes, survives a violent robbery on the bus to Lagos. Together, the friends tiptoe around memories of past struggles, which Obaro explores more fully in flashbacks to 1983, when all three met at a Nigerian university. As a freshman, Funmi draws attraction from dreamy literature student Zainab's politically active boyfriend, while helping Enitan with her coursework. Meanwhile, Zainab enlists her friends to help convince her father to allow her to marry his protégé, and Funmi conscripts Enitan for support during her illegal abortion. Back in 2015, not a lot happens until the end, with a big surprise involving the bride. Obaro offers plenty of sumptuous depictions of Nigerian culture via Destiny's wedding, as well as perceptive observations about the characters, though the dual timeline makes this feel at once rushed and overstuffed, and leaves the characters underdeveloped. The result is pleasant if not entirely memorable. (June)

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Review by Library Journal Review

DEBUT In the mid-1980s, three young Nigerian women from disparate backgrounds meet in school and become inseparable. On their vibrant college campus, Funmi, Enitan, and Zainab relish their freedom to study, argue, and question religion, culture, politics, and sexuality, forging bonds and secrets that will be long held. Three decades later, Funmi's daughter Destiny, a medical student who would rather pursue a career in photography, appears to be rushing into marriage, and the friends are reuniting at Funmi's palatial compound in Lagos for the joyous occasion. Soon each spots the cracks behind the others' well-honed facades. Enitan, who left Nigeria for married life in New York City, is filing for divorce, to her daughter Remy's dismay. Meanwhile, Zainab struggles to care for her husband, Ahmed, felled by a stroke, and Funmi, though wealthy beyond imagining, is saddled with an aloof man more enthralled by his cell phone than by his wife. Descriptions of the over-the-top wedding festivities would be a pure delight but for the underlying question: Will these women ultimately love and support their daughters as they once did each other? VERDICT The intricacies of female friendships and the complex nature of mother/daughter relationships are at the heart of this absorbing novel from BuzzFeed culture editor Obaro, a sharp new voice on the literary scene.--Sally Bissell

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Review by Kirkus Book Review

After 30 years, three college friends from Nigeria reunite for a daughter's wedding. As different as they are from each other, Enitan, Zainab, and Funmi were so closely entwined during their turbulent university years that it's hard to believe they haven't been together as a threesome since graduation. But Enitan married a redheaded Peace Corps volunteer from Connecticut and immigrated to the United States, where she's raised a very American daughter. Zainab, the tall, elegant offspring of a Hausa academic, married one of her father's friends and had four sons. Her husband has now suffered an incapacitating series of strokes, and she, the only one of the friends who didn't study nursing, has become a full-time caretaker. Funmi, the man-killer of the group, is rich, "as in she-has-an-apartment-in-London, shops-at-Harrods rich, as in she-also-has-a-house-in-Lekki-and-a-sprawling-compound-in-her-husband's-village rich. As in...what-her-husband-does-is-ill-defined-and-definitely-involves-bribery, but-she-prefers-not-to-think-about-it rich" The occasion of her daughter Destiny's marriage has roused her from a midlife coma of boredom, eager to reassemble her friends, invite hundreds of people, and put on the show of the decade. The fact that Destiny shares not a whit of her enthusiasm for this event? Well, maybe if she ignores it, it will go away. Obaro's debut is a portrait of female friendship that will feel familiar to women everywhere, but it is also infused with Nigerian cultural specificity: food, clothing, religion, music, and ambient threat. "Nigeria unleashed constant reminders of one's mortality: death via traffic accident, a bridge collapse, a plane crash, an especially bad case of malaria, a sloppy blood transfusion, a kidnapping gone wrong, robbery, stress-induced heart attack, food poisoning, an act of black magic, poverty. The ways to die were endless. That's why you had to live, and live ferociously, and often selfishly and exploitatively, but Funmi did not worry herself about these details....It was best to count your blessings and keep it moving." Perhaps an epilogue could have remedied the abruptness of the ending, which leaves an awful lot up in the air. An engrossing read with strong characters and a clear portrait of Nigeria then and now. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

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Chapter 1 Enitan I think they've lost our luggage," Enitan announced to Remi. They both watched the only item left on the carousel--a haggard, haphazardly taped Ghana-Must-Go bag--make yet another turn. "Well," Remi said, and then she looked at her mother and they both began giggling, the unfettered, unhinged laughter of the exhausted. Their journey from New York to Lagos had been a chaotic one. Remi was supposed to have spent the night with her mother in Enitan's new apartment in Jamaica, Queens, where Enitan now lived since she had moved out of the family's two-bedroom Park Slope apartment. But Remi had decided to take the train to Queens instead that morning, slowing them down considerably. Even when she and Remi had finally managed to get a car, they had had to endure a two-hour-long wait to get through security at JFK because everyone, it seemed, was desperate to go somewhere warm two weeks before Christmas. Then they had another three-hour wait when they got to Heathrow because their flight to Lagos had been delayed. Now, at last, they had arrived, tired, hungry, and apparently without luggage. Still, it was good that Enitan and Remi were laughing together. That Remi had even agreed to come had been somewhat unexpected. Since Enitan and Charles had announced their intention to separate, Remi, nineteen years old, had reverted back to a younger, more beleaguered self; her eyes had rapidly filled with tears when they had sat her down and first told her the news. They had not expected her to take it so hard. In truth the divorce had been a long time coming. Remi's departure for college had clarified that yes, this man Enitan had abruptly and dramatically left Nigeria for, while she loved him and always would in the familial sense (he was the father of her child after all), he was no longer someone she could envision spending the rest of her life with--certainly not as husband and wife. In many ways, it felt like a miracle that they had been together as long as they had. Sometimes Enitan wondered if, were it not for her utter literal dependence on him those first few years in the U.S., and the shared deep sense of mutual obligation toward the other--he for taking her away from everything she had ever known; her for doing so without complaint and even excitement--their marriage would have lasted as long as it had. But to Remi, who was nineteen but a young nineteen, Enitan thought, a naïve nineteen, her mother was a traitor; she was breaking up their beautiful, close-knit family that had always prompted smiles from neighbors who thought that Enitan's presence in the neighborhood belied the persistent and aggressive whitening of the area. Just that morning, as Enitan kept refreshing the ride-hailing app hoping for a car to magically appear, Remi had rolled her eyes and sighed melodramatically and then suggested they take the bus so Enitan could save money for the divorce. Enitan had told Remi to cut it out and Remi had rolled her eyes again and so Enitan had slapped her reflexively. They had both stared at each other in shock. Remi began to cry. Enitan said she was sorry and then their car had come. So yes, laughter was good and suggested momentary forgiveness, which Enitan appreciated. In general Remi had always been bad at holding grudges. And Enitan was grateful that Remi had given up a ski trip with her boyfriend's family over the winter break to attend the wedding of a girl she had only met twice. Once, when Remi was a baby and Destiny a docile five-year-old, dutifully holding on to the handle of the pram in which Remi had been lying in Washington Square Park; the second time as surly adolescents, when Funmi had come with her daughter on another occasion to the city and they had gotten breakfast at the Waldorf Astoria. Charles had insisted on paying the bill, and Enitan had felt so embarrassed she barely spoke to him on the train ride home. She hoped that the trip would be good. Charles was going to be spending the holiday with his sisters and their children in that giant house in Newport--that last vestige of family wealth--so if Remi was feeling guilty or traitorous there was no need for that. In fact, before Enitan had finally decided to go to the wedding, Charles, ever the gentleman, had invited Enitan to join him there for Christmas. Everything had been amicable considering, but the thought of being in that drafty house--probably built by slaves, Enitan suspected--seeing the secret, knowing smiles from his sisters, who had never liked her, and all their bratty children--loud and entitled in that uniquely white American way--made her say no. Enitan genuinely would have preferred to stay in her apartment. Alone for the first time in two decades that first night, she had climbed onto the twin bed in her narrow bedroom and cried like she hadn't cried in years. Not since her mother's funeral five years ago. Which, incidentally, was the last time she had been home. "So, what do we do now?" Remi asked. Enitan moved a strand of hair from Remi's face. Remi automatically flinched at the gesture, and they looked at each other then, the memory of the slap still fresh. "I wish I had some water," Remi said, stepping away slightly from her mother. "We should be able to buy some. I have to break these bills anyway," said Enitan. "But let's sort out this luggage situation first." It was hot, stiflingly so; the overhead fans didn't appear to be doing much. The bright fluorescent lights only seemed to make the hall hotter. Fellow passengers coming from abroad were quickly shedding layers in the humidity as sinewy luggage boys finessed trolleys stacked with suitcases. Cranky toddlers cried in harried mothers' arms, a phalanx of drivers with signs for clients stood near one side while oyinbo businessmen, dressed in cargo shorts and boots as if they were going on a safari, marched toward them. "Wrong side of the continent," Enitan wanted to mutter to them. She checked her watch--still set to New York time. It was 3:04 p.m. there, which meant it was 8:04 p.m. here. Funmi had told Enitan that Sunday, her driver, would be coming to meet them. "We'll report the luggage missing and then we can find Sunday and head to the house," Enitan said. She scanned the crowds looking for a uniformed official. She spotted one walking without evident purpose, a walkie-talkie attached to his belt loop. "Excuse me!" He didn't seem to hear her. She rolled her shoulders back. She tried to channel the aggression that felt so necessary when traveling in Nigeria. As soon as the plane had slowed to a crawl on the runway, the clicking of unbuckling seat belts began even as one of the flight attendants asked, at increasing volume, for passengers to remain seated. Her pleas were futile as men, always men, sprung out of their seats ignoring her. Enitan and Remi had exchanged a meaningful eye roll after the man in front of them leaped from his seat with alarming alacrity, opening the overhead bin to retrieve a dilapidated carry-on. That competitiveness, a singular, almost-myopic self-centeredness, that dog-eat-dog mentality, permeated every interaction with a stranger in Lagos. It was why Enitan had always hated visiting Lagos as a child. She felt unprepared, caught off guard by the demands of the city. Abeokuta was so much more tranquil in comparison. At dinner parties with Charles's acquaintances, whenever talk turned to cities and the inevitable, slightly ostentatious comparisons of the ones his guests--fellow failed or struggling artists who had lived in Prague or Berlin or what have you--had visited, Charles would tell them that Lagos was like the New York of Africa. She knew he was just trying to draw a point of comparison for them but she still inherently chafed at the phrase, which she hated because it made Africa sound like one massive country, something a lot of Americans irritatingly seemed to believe, if not literally, then in essence. The other reason was because, if anything, Lagos was what New York wished it was at its grittiest. Lagosians were desperate in a way New Yorkers would never be. When failing meant actual starvation, the hustling became boundless. Of course, long term, these gripes didn't really matter. As Remi never failed to periodically remind Enitan, both cities were going to sink into the ocean one day. "Our luggage has not arrived," Enitan told the officer, tipping her head up at him in an imperious manner. She watched the officer look at the both of them, his gaze lingering on Remi, who shifted under his eyes. The stares were going to be inevitable on this trip. She was mixed ("half-caste" as they said here at home, though Enitan had learned the hard way that this was not the appropriate term in the U.S.) and tall, with a mass of red curls and freckles. No one ever assumed that the short, skinny woman, with closely cropped hair and a complexion the warm brown of a coconut husk, standing alongside Remi was her mother. Enitan had begrudgingly accepted this fact. The officer smiled, revealing a prominent gap between his front teeth. He leaned in conspiratorially. "You are from America?" He was still looking at Remi, smiling. Remi reddened and looked at Enitan quickly before answering. "Yes?" she said, making it sound like a question. She always sounded less sure of herself when she was anxious. Enitan had given Remi a lecture during their layover in London about not divulging more information than necessary to strangers while they were in Nigeria. "You know there are kidnappings. You don't want to give anybody any reason to think you have a lot of money." Remi had rolled her eyes. "Please, Mom. You're being ridiculous. Didn't you say yourself that kidnappings are happening on the roads? Aren't we going to be in Lagos the whole time? And as soon as people look at me, they're going to know I'm not from here, so who are we trying to fool?" Enitan had been quiet. Remi was right of course. Enitan wanted to scare Remi into being vigilant; she was distressingly lacking in street smarts, a naturally trusting person. She had been the kind of child who would engage strangers in conversation on the subway and would say hello and goodbye as a toddler to passersby when Enitan took her on walks in the park in the middle of the day, sleep-deprived and depressed and often mistaken for the nanny. Enitan knew her anxiety was slightly unreasonable. But traveling to Nigeria fueled her paranoia. Just the thought of going home made her deeply apprehensive and anxious--on a molecular level. The stress of it. Now that her mother was dead, there had been no strong incentive to ever go back. Not until now. "Don't worry, fine gehl, we will get your luggage for you in no time," said the official, and though he did not lick his lips, he looked like he would have had Enitan not been standing there. Enitan cleared her throat and mustered up her strongest glare. The official's smile weakened. "Please, follow me," he instructed them. "We will go to the computer and should be able to locate your boxes." He led them away from the carousels to a booth and asked for their passports and boarding passes. He held Remi's passport up, squinting. "Is this the same person? This small pikin?" And he smiled again at Remi and winked. This man. Enitan had had enough. "Please, tell us where our luggage is!" The official now eyed Enitan warily. "No problem, no problem." He began typing on a keyboard--hen pecks, not the QWERTY style Enitan had learned to do on Charles's old typewriter when she had first arrived in New York, unable to work legally and utterly bored. To save paper, she would reuse the same sheet over and over again so at the end of her self-guided lesson superimposed lines of see the quick lazy fox run filled the page. "It looks like your luggage didn't make the flight," the official said. He printed out a paper and handed it to Enitan. "Your boxes will be coming on this flight tomorrow. You should be able to pick them up here at that time." He smiled again at Remi. "Welcome to Nigeria." They walked back into the arrival hall, this time studying the signs the drivers were holding up more closely. Sunday should be here by now. She spotted him at the far end of the line. "Sunday," Enitan said when she saw him. "How far?" They had met before briefly. Five years ago, he had picked her up from the airport and had driven her to Abeokuta the following morning--courtesy of Funmi. "This is my daughter, Remi," Enitan said. Remi smiled and stuck out her hand. "So nice to meet you, Uncle Sunday." Sunday looked bewildered. He took Remi's hand tentatively, while looking at Enitan as if for permission. All Remi's life, Enitan had told her that calling adults by their first names was rude. Mister or Ms. sufficed, though Enitan still thought those honorifics sounded so formal, so distant. They were fine for white people Enitan didn't know. Charles told Enitan he thought it would be odd for Remi to call their friends "uncle" or "aunty" if they weren't related. Enitan had fought this battle and won for a while when Remi was young, but by the time she turned eleven, Remi had abandoned the habit. She had decided it was awkward after her friends would stare at her quizzically when she told them the Indian woman with the Trinidadian accent who sometimes picked her up from school was Aunty Maya. Remi hadn't revived the practice until now. Enitan smiled at Sunday and he took her carry-on. Then he looked behind them as if he expected the rest of their luggage to suddenly appear. "Madam, na all your bag be dis? Where the remaining?" "They didn't make it," Enitan said. "Don't worry, we will get them tomorrow. Let's go." They followed Sunday out of the hall and into the humid night air. The streetlights cast a soft lambent glow and illuminated the hordes of flying insects hovering near each lamppost. Enitan used her knuckles to knead her lower back slowly. She had had to pick up extra shifts at the nursing home in order to accrue the ten days of vacation she was taking and to start saving up for the divorce. The dull ache there was a reminder that her body was no longer cut out for such labor. As annoying as standing around and waiting for their missing luggage had been, it was preferable to sitting at the moment. And judging from the long line of traffic right in front of the airport, they would be sitting for a long time. A zealous young man speed walked past them commandeering a luggage trolley loaded with precariously positioned suitcases. A fashionably dressed young woman wearing Dolce & Gabbana sunglasses, her phone glued to her ear, followed slowly after him. Excerpted from Dele Weds Destiny: A Novel by Tomi Obaro All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.