This is not a pity memoir

Abi Morgan

Book - 2022

One afternoon, Abi Morgan returned home to find her longtime partner and father to their two kids collapsed on the bathroom floor. Jacob, who had been undergoing treatment for multiple sclerosis, had suddenly experienced a series of seizures and had to be put into a medically induced coma. As he slowly regained consciousness after six months, he made tentative steps to communicate with those around him, and grappled with the host of issues that had been triggered by the damage caused to his brai...n. But while Jacob recognized his family and friends, he didn't believe that the Abi standing in front of him--who had sat by his hospital bed, juggled care of their children, and liaised with his slew of doctors as he slipped between life and death--was in fact his Abi. Instead, he saw a woman whom he believed to be an imposter. Starting with Jacob's first collapse and set over the course of two years since, This Is Not a Pity Memoir is a story about love and family. Abi describes with unflinching honesty and nuance the extraordinary and terrifying challenge of caring for a loved one in the wake of devastating illness. The book asks: How do you bring back someone who relies on you for recovery and yet no longer recognizes you? How do you reckon with the shared years that came before? And most of all: How do you navigate this new life together?

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Genres
Autobiographies
Biography
Biographies
Published
New York, NY : Harper, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers [2022]
Edition
First edition
Language
English
Item Description
"Sugar 23 Books."
Physical Description
245 pages ; 24 cm
ISBN
9780358682950
0358682959
Main Author
Abi Morgan (author)
Review by Booklist Reviews

After rushing through a seemingly normal day in her busy life, playwright and screenwriter Morgan arrived home to find her partner collapsed on the bathroom floor and their lives changed forever. In this emotional memoir, Morgan poetically writes about her husband's long illness, her own battle with breast cancer, and how she learned to hang on to what matters most. Beautifully weaving the past with the present, she reveals the deep truths and challenging moments of caring for a partner that at times doesn't recognize her, raising two children, saving her troubled relationship, and navigating a successful career, all while living with her own illness and enduring the global pandemic. Life is a process of cause and effect, Morgan writes, and however much you might sidestep the cracks, stay close to the edge, keep on walking past the open windows, no one can prepare you for the utter shock of the backflip, the left-field throw, the curveball. Morgan shares her life in hopes that her story may connect with readers carrying burdens of their own. Copyright 2022 Booklist Reviews.

Review by Booklist Reviews

After rushing through a seemingly normal day in her busy life, playwright and screenwriter Morgan arrived home to find her partner collapsed on the bathroom floor and their lives changed forever. In this emotional memoir, Morgan poetically writes about her husband's long illness, her own battle with breast cancer, and how she learned to hang on to what matters most. Beautifully weaving the past with the present, she reveals the deep truths and challenging moments of caring for a partner that at times doesn't recognize her, raising two children, saving her troubled relationship, and navigating a successful career, all while living with her own illness and enduring the global pandemic. Life is a process of cause and effect, Morgan writes, and however much you might sidestep the cracks, stay close to the edge, keep on walking past the open windows, no one can prepare you for the utter shock of the backflip, the left-field throw, the curveball. Morgan shares her life in hopes that her story may connect with readers carrying burdens of their own. Copyright 2022 Booklist Reviews.

Review by Library Journal Reviews

During treatment for multiple sclerosis, the longtime partner of BAFTA- and Emmy Award-winning playwright/screenwriter Morgan experienced seizures and had to be put in a medically induced coma. When he awoke, he recognized his children, family, and friends but not Morgan, whom he considered an impostor. How do you care for someone long-term who won't even acknowledge who you are? With a 75,000-copy first printing. Copyright 2021 Library Journal.

Review by Library Journal Reviews

Morgan, screenwriter of Suffragette and The Iron Lady, has written a raw memoir about fragility, resilience, anguish, and hope. When her partner, actor Jacob Krichefski, complains one morning of not feeling well, little does she realize that they are embarking upon a long journey of illness and recovery. Krichefski had recently stopped taking a drug for his Multiple Sclerosis. Returning home to find him incapacitated on the bathroom floor, the family begins a year-long journey through hospitals, consultants, and medical teams. Supported by an extended network of family and friends, Morgan continues to work and hold her family's life together. Eventually diagnosed with Anti-NMDA Receptor Encephalitis, Jacob begins his long recovery but then develops Capgras syndrome, which causes him to recognize everyone—except Morgan. He believes her to be an imposter and remains convinced that she is not whom she says she is. Then, as if this was not enough, Morgan discovers that she is quite unwell herself, and urgently needs treatment. VERDICT A powerful, fragmented journey through brain injury. This book will especially appeal to Morgan's fans, and to those who have experienced similar journeys.—Penelope J.M. Klein Copyright 2022 Library Journal.

Review by Publishers Weekly Reviews

In this raw and incandescent debut, screenwriter Morgan reflects on the emotional turmoil and growth of rebuilding a life with her partner after he was diagnosed with Capgras syndrome, a rare psychological illness that made him believe she was an imposter. When a seizure led her partner of 20 years, Jacob, to be put into a medically induced coma for six months, Morgan was informed that his "brain does not look like yours... anymore." Upon waking up, he slowly remembered their children and family, but not Morgan. With brutal and hypnotic prose, Morgan oscillates between the grueling processes of regaining Jacob's trust upon his return home ("One day I suggest he quiz me... I get every answer right") and providing him round-the-clock care while isolating due to the Covid-19 pandemic; the beginning of their relationship, when their passion was immediate and intense; and her own harrowing struggle with stage 3 breast cancer. "What no one tells you about proper unfolding tragedy is that it is scary, and adrenalizing," she writes. "But mainly it is boring." Delving into her "mawkish... relationship with mishap" and desperation to preserve the ephemeral, Morgan surfaces with a profound look at the complexities of love, even at its most mundane. Equal parts savage and sublime, this obliterates notions of memory and intimacy with grace and precision. (June) Copyright 2022 Publishers Weekly.

Review by Publisher Summary 1

Set over the course of two years, an award-winning screenwriter and playwright, in this moving story of love and family, shares how she, after her husband woke up from a medically induced coma, had to care for someone who believed she was an imposter. 75,000 first printing.

Review by Publisher Summary 2

Set over the course of two years, an award-winning screenwriter and playwright, in this moving story of love and family, shares how she, after her husband woke up from a medically induced coma, had to care for someone who believed she was an imposter.

Review by Publisher Summary 3

What happens when your partner of twenty years suddenly believes you’re nothing but a stranger? What do you do when your history together is gone?How do you prove you’re not an imposter in your own life? When the partner of Emmy Award–winning screenwriter Abi Morgan abruptly collapsed from a mysterious illness, doctors were concerned that he would not survive. Then, six months later, Jacob woke from his coma, to the delight and relief of his family and friends—except this proved to be anything but a Hollywood ending. Because to Jacob, the woman standing at his bedside, who had cared for him all these months, was not his partner. Not his children’s mother. Not the woman he loved. Sure, she looked like his Abi, but this was an imposter, living someone else’s life.Finding herself dropped into a real-life night-mare seemingly ripped from the pages of a thriller, Abi must find a way to hang on to not only their past but also their future together, before it slips away from them both. With grace, an irresistible sense of humor and refreshingly raw honesty, This Is Not a Pity Memoir grapples with a journey through fear and redemption few should have to face.What do you do when you are losing your love? You don’t write a pity memoir. You write a love story. 

Review by Publisher Summary 4

A moving memoir from the award-winning screenwriter and playwright Abi Morgan about what happens when the person you love most no longer recognizes you

Review by Publisher Summary 5

A moving memoir from the award-winning screenwriter and playwright Abi Morgan about what happens when the person you love most no longer recognizes youOne afternoon, Abi Morgan returned home to find her longtime partner and father to their two kids collapsed on the bathroom floor. Jacob, who had been undergoing treatment for multiple sclerosis, had suddenly experienced a series of seizures and had to be put into a medically induced coma. As he slowly regained consciousness after six months, he made tentative steps to communicate with those around him, and grappled with the host of issues that had been triggered by the damage caused to his brain. But while Jacob recognized his family and friends, he didn’t believe that the Abi standing in front of him—who had sat by his hospital bed, juggled care of their children, and liaised with his slew of doctors as he slipped between life and death—was in fact his Abi. Instead, he saw a woman whom he believed to be an imposter.Starting with Jacob’s first collapse and set over the course of two years since, This Is Not a Pity Memoir is a story about love and family. Abi describes with unflinching honesty and nuance the extraordinary and terrifying challenge of caring for a loved one in the wake of devastating illness. The book asks: How do you bring back someone who relies on you for recovery and yet no longer recognizes you? How do you reckon with the shared years that came before? And most of all: How do you navigate this new life together?