A year of living kindly Choices that will change your life and the world around you

Donna Cameron

Book - 2018

Being kind is something most of us do when it's easy and when it suits us. Being kind when we don't feel like it, or when all of our buttons are being pushed, is hard. But that's also when it's most needed; that's when it can defuse anger and even violence, when it can restore civility in our personal and virtual interactions. Kindness has the power to profoundly change our relationships with other people and with ourselves. It can, in fact, change the world. In A Year of Living Kindly--using stories, observation, humor, and summaries of expert research--Donna Cameron shares her experience committing to 365 days of practicing kindness. She presents compelling research into the myriad benefits of kindness, including ...health, wealth, longevity, improved relationships, and personal and business success. She explores what a kind life entails, and what gets in the way of it. And she provides practical and experiential suggestions for how each of us can strengthen our kindness muscle so choosing a life of kindness becomes ever easier and more natural. An inspiring, practical guide that can help any reader make a commitment to kindness, A Year of Living Kindly shines a light on how we can create a better, safer, and more just world--and how you can be part of that transformation.

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Genres
Self-help publications
Published
Berkeley, CA : She Writes Press 2018.
Language
English
Main Author
Donna Cameron (author)
Physical Description
287 pages ; 22 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN
9781631524790
  • Introduction: The World Gould Use More Kindness
  • The Season of Discovery
  • I. Understanding Kindness
  • 1. Being Nice Isn't the Same as Being Kind
  • 2. If I Were Always Kind, I Wouldn't Be Doing This
  • 3. The Chasm between Kindness and Unkindness
  • 4. Kindness and Indifference Cannot Coexist
  • II. Why Kindness Matters: Its Benefits and Power
  • 5. Perform Two Acts of Kindness and Call Me in the Morning
  • 6. Bibbidi-Bobbidi-Boo: Kindness Alleviates Social Anxiety
  • 7. An Epidemic of Our Own Choosing
  • 3. The Business Case for Kindness
  • III. Opening Strategies for a Kind Life
  • 9. The Power of the Pause
  • 10. Kindness Means Suspending Judgment
  • 11. Kindness and Keeping Score
  • 12. "Kill Transform 'cm with Kindness": A Lesson from My Mother
  • 13. Dancing with Discovery: Taking Time to Notice the Kindness in Your Life
  • The Season of Understanding
  • I. Barriers to Kindness
  • 14. When Fear Gets in the Way of Kindness
  • 15. When We Don't Have Time for Kindness
  • 16. I Don't Have the Patience for This!
  • 17. Other Barriers to Kindness
  • II. Resistance to Kindness
  • 18. Rejecting Kindness
  • 19. On the Receiving End of Kindness
  • 20. It All Starts with Kindness to Self
  • 21. No Kindness Is Ever Too Small
  • III. Opening Our Lives to Kindness
  • 22. Kindness and Abundance: Enough Is Enough!
  • 23. Gratitude Is a Companion to Kindness
  • 24. Kindness and Generosity: It's Not All about Money
  • 25. Pay Attention: Kindness Requires Presence
  • 26. Dancing with Understanding: Two Steps Forward, One Step Back
  • The Season of Choosing
  • I. The Tools of Kindness
  • 27. A Life of Kindness Requires Courage
  • 28. Kindness and Curiosity
  • 29. Kindness and Vulnerability
  • 30. Choosing to Be For or Against
  • II. Choosing Kindness
  • 31. What Do You Want Your Legacy to Be?
  • 32. Extending Kindness to All: Kindness Isn't Selective or Conditional
  • 33. Oh, the Stones We Tell!
  • 34. What Are You Looking For (Really)?
  • III. Dealing with Unkindness
  • 35. Big Bullies
  • 36. Little Bullies: Where It All Begins
  • 37. By standing ... or Standing Up for Kindness?
  • 38. Choosing Our Cyber-Voices and Media Companions
  • 39. Dancing with Yes: Dance like No One's Watching
  • The Season of Becoming
  • I. Challenges to Kindness
  • 40. When My Kindness Is Your "Yuck!"
  • 41. What If I Don't Feel Like Being Kind?
  • 42. Being Kind to People We Don't Like
  • 43. I'm Just Sayin'... Honesty Isn't Always Kind
  • 44. When the Kindest Thing to Do Is ... Absolutely Nothing
  • II. Creating a Kinder World
  • 45. A Transformation or an Evolution? The Five Percent Plan
  • 46. What We Want Most for Our Kids
  • 47. Kindness to the Earth and All Its Creatures
  • 48. Strategies for Bringing Kindness into Your Life
  • III. Living Kindness Every Day: Your Kindness Legacy
  • 49. Kind Actions That Cost Nothing and Take Little Time
  • 50. A Dozen Reasons to Choose Kindness
  • 51. The Lessons of Kindness
  • 52. The Never-Ending Dance: A Kindness Manifesto
  • Notes
  • Acknowledgments
  • About the Author
Review by Kirkus Book Review

A year's worth of valuable insights about kindness.In 2015, Cameron (One Hill, Many Voices, 2011) dedicated a whole year to becoming a kinder person. The abundant lessons she learned comprise this book, and early on, she makes an important distinction between being kind and being nice: "Nice doesn't ask too much of usholding the door, smiling at the cashier.[Kind] means thinking about the impact I'm having in an interaction with someone and endeavoring to make it rich and meaningful." She makes a convincing case for doing the latter, noting its benefits to physical health, mental health, and even business success. She then works her way through the many obstacles to being kind, including fear, time constraints, impatience, and resentment. Other sections examine how to react to unkind interactions, how to be kinder to oneself, and dozens of other related concepts. To conclude each chapter, the author writes a powerful "Kindness in Action" paragraph with reflective questions and clear invitations to help readers truly apply the book's principles. As a longtime blogger, Cameron knows how to captivate an audience; her prose is, by turns, humorous, astute, logical, eloquent, and sincere. There are no distracting tangents, and there's no meaningless "fluff" to fill space. Cameron is also genuinely open about her own weaknesses; for example, she writes that when she first committed to the idea of being kinder, she "all-too-quickly resumed my cranky ways, stopping and starting kindness like a sputtering engine." Cameron's anecdotes are consistently memorable, and her analysis of them is often brilliant. Overall, this well-organized book is engaging enough to read quickly but profound enough to savor slowly.A thorough, genuine, and highly effective self-help work. Copyright Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

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