The apology

Eve Ensler, 1953-

Book - 2019

"This book, The Apology, written by Eve from her father's point of view in the words she longed to hear attempts to transform the abuse she suffered, with unflinching truthfulness, compassion, and a expansive vision for the future. Through The Apology Eve has set out to provide a new way for herself and a possible road for others, so that survivors of abuse may finally imagine how to be free. In it, she grapples with questions she has sought answers to since she began to understand the... impact of her father's abuse on her life: How do we offer a doorway rather than only a locked cell? How to move from humiliation to revelation, from curtailing behavior to changing it, from condemning perpetrators to calling them to reckoning? The Apology is a remarkably original book that explores the deepest and most intimate questions that can be asked at this moment: Why do men carry out abuse, often against the people they know and love the most? How can we--together--stop it? What does it mean to apologize for these acts? What will it take for the men who have committed abuse to make a deep reckoning and actually apologize? As Tony Porter from A Call to Men says, "We've called men out, now how do we call them in?" The Apology is an acutely transformational book--about how, from the wounds of sexual abuse, we can begin to re-emerge and heal. It is a revolutionary book asking everything of each of us: courage, truthfulness, and forgiveness" --

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Genres
Autobiographies
Published
New York : Bloomsbury Publishing 2019.
Language
English
Item Description
"Bestselling author of The Vagina Monologues"--Dust jacket.
Physical Description
115 pages ; 22 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN
9781635574388
1635574382
Main Author
Eve Ensler, 1953- (author)
  • Intro
  • Half Title
  • Dedication
  • By the Same Author
  • Title Page
  • Contents
  • Begin Reading
  • Acknowledgments
  • A Note on the Author
  • Copyright.
Review by Booklist Reviews

*Starred Review* At the molten core of Ensler's trailblazing and empowering work as a playwright (The Vagina Monologues, 1998), nonfiction writer (In the Body of the World, 2013), and activist is the profound trauma caused by her now-long-dead father's sexual and physical abuse. In the absence of any apology from him, Ensler has imagined one, courageously composing an explicit confessional monologue in an attempt to fathom the horrifying mystery of why a parent would deliberately try to destroy a child. We learn that as a boy he was brutally abused and always feared having children. Sure enough, he's undone by his initial awe over his baby daughter, and, as she grows, his "tortured and angry" self, the "Shadow Man," takes over. He graphically recounts his monstrous behavior, from the sexual violence that hurled a joyful child into the abyss of depression and self-loathing to nearly murderous attacks and diabolical psychological assaults. Ultimately, he seeks to peg his crimes to "what it means to be a man," as dictated by the ingrained "patriarchal blueprint." Ensler's transfixing, appalling, revelatory, and cathartic performance deepens her mission of transmuting her pain into clarion stories that engender understanding, openness, healing, and liberation.HIGH-DEMAND BACKSTORY: This daring and resounding work by the renowned and influential Ensler will be launched with a blockbuster publicity campaign and a multicity book tour. Copyright 2019 Booklist Reviews.

Review by Library Journal Reviews

Best-selling author and playwright Ensler (The Vagina Monologues) writes an apology in the form of a letter from her late father; the words she needed him to say to her. Ensler states that she tried to allow him to speak in his voice; however, from its outset, this candid and unapologetic book is her reclamation of language, of story. The author tells the difficult account of sexual abuse that began when she was five, from her abuser's perspective, interwoven with her understanding of tactics such as grooming and manipulation. Beyond its power and personal bravery, this is a reintroduction to Ensler's smart, sophisticated writing. She alludes to John Milton's Paradise Lost to show how a man can create a hell inside of himself, and uses her father's voice to grab hold of the master narratives that shape culture and explain how he turned her mother against her. VERDICT Much as The Vagina Monologues made space for people to talk about female sexuality, this book will transform our collective understanding of what an apology for sexual violence can and should be, and how maybe it's more important for survivors to write the script; necessary reading for all.—Emily Bowles, Univ. of Wisconsin, Madison Copyright 2019 Library Journal.

Review by PW Annex Reviews

This bold, brutal, and ultimately healing narrative by playwright Ensler exposes the origin story of her ground-breaking play The Vagina Monologues through searing reflections on incest and abuse. Ensler assumes the voice of her father, Arthur, who died 31 years earlier, in a tormented letter addressed to "Dear Evie." Following a repressed, abusive childhood, business executive Arthur crafted a charming persona as "a synthetic remedy... to soul sickness." He married at age 50 and became a reluctant father with Ensler's birth in 1953. Infatuated with "the erotic essence of your tenderness," he began fondling the five-year-old Ensler and raped her at nine, knowing that it made her feel like "a dirty shameful girl." Physical abuse toward Ensler escalated through her teenage years: "I wanted you dead... I had to kill what I had already destroyed." Ensler writes in the introduction, "I have had to conjure much" of the personal history that Arthur never shared, and reimagining the events in this uninhibited exploration of an abusive father's motives, madness, and guilt sets her on the path to forgiveness. In the end, Arthur becomes aware of "the tortuous limbo I made inside you"; he apologizes, and is set free. This is a powerful and disturbing story that Ensler writes with grace an aplomb. (May) Copyright 2019 Publishers Weekly Annex.

Review by Publisher Summary 1

Examines the themes of abuse and atonement via the author's own experience being both physically and sexually abused.

Review by Publisher Summary 2

The best-selling author of The Vagina Monologues examines the themes of abuse and atonement via her own experience being both physically and sexually abused.

Review by Publisher Summary 3

"This book, The Apology, written by Eve from her father's point of view in the words she longed to hear attempts to transform the abuse she suffered, with unflinching truthfulness, compassion, and a expansive vision for the future. Through The Apology Eve has set out to provide a new way for herself and a possible road for others, so that survivors of abuse may finally imagine how to be free. In it, she grapples with questions she has sought answers to since she began to understand the impact of her father's abuse on her life: How do we offer a doorway rather than only a locked cell? How do move from humiliation to revelation, from curtailing behavior to changing it, from condemning perpetrators to calling them to reckoning? The Apology is a remarkably original book that explores the deepest and most intimate questions that can be asked at this moment: Why do men carry out abuse, often against the people they know and love the most? How can we--together--stop it? What does it mean to apologize for these acts? What will it take for the men who have committed abuse to make a deep reckoning and actually apologize? As Tony Porter from A Call to Men says, "We've called men out, now how do we call them in?" The Apology is an acutely transformational book--about how, from the wounds of sexual abuse, we can begin to re-emerge and heal. It is a revolutionary book asking everything of each of us: courage, truthfulness, and forgiveness" --

Review by Publisher Summary 4

From the bestselling author of The Vagina Monologues--a powerful, life-changing examination of abuse and atonement.“A triumph of artistry and empathy.” --Naomi Klein“A crucial step forward . . . This is an urgently needed book right now.” --Jane Fonda“Unflinching candor . . . immeasurable grace.” --Anita Hill“Courageous, transformative, and yes--healing.” --Anne Lamott"Unflinchingly increases our understanding of the human experience." --Michael Cunningham“[The Apology] will change how all of us think about our souls.” --Johann Hari“Shatteringly brilliant.” --The Times "The geometry of toxic masculinity is contained within these pages.” --Marc MaronLike millions of women, Eve Ensler has been waiting much of her lifetime for an apology. Sexually and physically abused by her father, Eve has struggled her whole life from this betrayal, longing for an honest reckoning from a man who is long dead. After years of work as an anti-violence activist, she decided she would wait no longer; an apology could be imagined, by her, for her, to her. The Apology, written by Eve from her father's point of view in the words she longed to hear, attempts to transform the abuse she suffered with unflinching truthfulness, compassion, and an expansive vision for the future. Through The Apology Eve has set out to provide a new way for herself and a possible road for others, so that survivors of abuse may finally envision how to be free. She grapples with questions she has sought answers to since she first realized the impact of her father's abuse on her life: How do we offer a doorway rather than a locked cell? How do we move from humiliation to revelation, from curtailing behavior to changing it, from condemning perpetrators to calling them to reckoning? What will it take for abusers to genuinely apologize?Remarkable and original, The Apology is an acutely transformational look at how, from the wounds of sexual abuse, we can begin to re-emerge and heal. It is revolutionary, asking everything of each of us: courage, honesty, and forgiveness.

Review by Publisher Summary 5

From the bestselling author of The Vagina Monologues--a powerful, life-changing examination of abuse and atonement.