Gender Your guide : a gender-friendly primer on what to know, what to say, and what to do in the new gender culture
Book - 2018
"An authentic and accessible guide to understanding--and engaging in--today's gender conversation. The days of two genders--male, female; boy, girl; blue, pink--are over, if they ever existed at all. Gender is now a global conversation, and one that is constantly evolving. More people than ever before are openly living their lives as transgender men or women, and many transgender people are coming out as neither men or women, instead living outside of the binary. Gender is changing, and this change is gaining momentum. We all want to do and say the right things in relation to gender diversity--whether at a job interview, at parent/teacher night, and around the table at family dinners. But where do we begin? From the differences am...ong gender identity, gender expression, and sex, to the use of gender-neutral pronouns like singular they/them, to thinking about your own participation in gender, Gender: Your Guide serves as a complete primer to all things gender. Guided by professor and gender diversity advocate Lee Airton, PhD, you will learn how gender works in everyday life, how to use accurate terminology to refer to transgender, non-binary, and/or gender non-conforming individuals, and how to ask when you aren't sure what to do or say. It provides you with the information you need to talk confidently and compassionately about gender diversity, whether simply having a conversation or going to bat as an advocate. Just like gender itself, being gender-friendly is a process for all of us. As revolutionary a resource as Our Bodies, Ourselves, Gender: Your Guide invites everyone on board to make gender more flexible and less constricting: a source of more joy, and less harm, for everyone. Let's get started"--
- Subjects
- Published
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New York :
Adams Media
2018.
- Language
- English
- Main Author
- Edition
- First Adams Media hardcover edition
- Physical Description
- 239 pages ; 23 cm
- Bibliography
- Includes bibliographical references (pages 225-232) and index.
- ISBN
- 9781507209004
- Acknowledgments
- Preface: Why This Book Matters
- Introduction
- Part 1. What to Know
- 1. Understanding Gender in Today's World
- Fact or Process? Two Broad Schools of Thought about Gender
- Biology and Socialization Affect Each Other
- How Gender Works in Everyday Life
- 2. Everyone Is a Gender Expert, Whether You Know It or Not
- A Story: I Really Need Those Shoes
- Drawing Your Gender-Friendly Road Map
- Gender-Friendliness Is a Process
- Gender-Friendliness: How Everyone Benefits
- 3. Learning about the Transgender Spectrum
- Why Are Some People Transgender? Because We Are
- Transgender People Are Diverse
- Transgender People Have Many Ways of Transitioning
- Common "Knowledge" about Transgender People Is Changing Over Time
- Part 2. What to Say
- 4. A Gender-Neutral Pronoun Primer
- WHAT Are Gender-Neutral Pronouns?
- WHO Uses Gender-Neutral Pronouns and WHY?
- The HOW of Gender-Neutral Pronouns
- 5. Strategies for Using People's Pronouns Correctly
- Tips for Getting Pronouns Right, As Best As You Can
- Comparing Two Common Pronoun Workarounds
- How Do I Know? Ways of Finding Out Someone's Pronouns
- What If I Do All These Things and Someone Still Gets Mad at Me?
- 6. Noticing and Changing Gendered Language
- Pushing Out of Gendered Language
- General Uses of Singular They in Work and Life
- Alternatives to Common Gendered Language
- Part 3. What To Do
- 7. How to Stop Telling People Who They Are, Gender-Wise, by Accident
- You're the Authority on Your [XYZ], Not Me!
- Gender-Friendly Ways to Talk about Partners
- Gender-Friendly Ways to Talk about and Engage Babies and Kids
- It's Not My Business Which Washroom You Use!
- 8. An Action Plan for Standing Up Beside Your Person
- 1. Pay Attention
- 2. Opt Out of Question-Calling
- 3. Identify Hot Spots
- 4. Take Action
- Now You Have Your Gender-Friendly Toolkit
- 9. Growing Your Gender-Friendly Community
- It's Hard Sometimes: How to Face the Challenges of Being Gender-Friendly
- How to Debunk False Arguments Against Gender-Friendly Change
- Tips for Taking a Leadership Role with Others
- Last Word
- CODA: To the Trans Person Whose Person Is Reading This Book
- Who Am I and Why Did I Write This Book?
- Self-Advocacy Tips and Resources
- Glossary
- Resources
- Bibliography
- Index