I used to be a miserable f*ck An everyman's guide to a meaningful life

John Kim

Book - 2019

Offers men rugged, no-nonsense advice on how to lead a better and more fulfilling life, including the importance of kindness, why man dates are important, and how to drop the phrase "I dunno."

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Published
[San Francisco, California] : HarperOne, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers [2019]
Language
English
Main Author
John Kim (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
xii, 220 pages ; 22 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references (page 217).
ISBN
9780062856340
  • Dear Men
  • Introduction
  • Self
  • #1. Don't Hide
  • #2. Do Walk with Mirrors
  • #3. Do Choose Responsibility over Freedom
  • #4. Do Live a Through-Me Life
  • #5. Don't Be a Double Douche
  • #6. Do Starve Your Ego
  • #7. Don't Fuck with People Just Because You Can
  • #8. Don't Whine
  • #9. Don't Peer over the (Metaphorical) Urinal
  • #10. Don't Be Nice, Be Kind
  • #11. Don't Just Wear the Compassion T-Shirt
  • #12. Do Seek Nectar
  • Health
  • #13. Do Sweat Daily
  • #14. Do Calm the Fuck Down
  • #15. Do Slingshot Yourself into the Present
  • #16. Do Get Out of Your Bubble
  • #17. Do Eat Something Green
  • #18. Do Laugh Hard
  • #19. Do Things That Make You Feel Alive
  • #20. Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously
  • #21. Do Dance (Especially If You Don't Know How)
  • #22. Do Go on Man Dates
  • #23. Do Do Things Alone
  • Love And Relationships
  • #24. Do Respond, Don't React
  • #25. Don't Put Your Shoulds on Others
  • #26. Do Say "I Was Wrong"
  • #27. Don't Be the "I Dunno" Guy
  • #28. Don't Pee in the Shower
  • #29. Don't Tear People Down
  • #30. Do Want to Do the Dishes
  • #31. Do Let Go of Your Partner's Sexual History
  • #32. Don't Place Her on a Pedestal
  • #33. Don't Stop Courting Her
  • #34. Don't Just Netflix and Chill
  • #35. Don't Perform in the Bedroom
  • #36. Do Love Hard
  • Career And Success
  • #37. Do Own Your Shit
  • #38. Do Separate Who You Are from What You Do
  • #39. Don't Punch Clocks
  • #40. Do Be Aware of Your Energy
  • #41. Do Make Your Bed
  • #42. Do Fail, Often
  • #43. Do Have a Firm Handshake
  • #44. Do Enter Rooms Like You Own Them
  • #45. Do Believe in Yourself
  • Communication
  • #46. Do Say No Often
  • #47. Do Try to Understand Before Trying to Be Understood
  • #48. Don't Walk Away During a Fight
  • #49. Do Express Your Fucking Feelings
  • #50. Do Put Your Phone Down
  • #51. Do Be Physically Affectionate
  • #52. Don't Drive Like a Dick
  • #53. Don't Debate Everything
  • #54. Don't Inhale Your Food
  • #55. Don't Text Like You're Seventeen
  • #56. Do Tip Well
  • Everything Else
  • #57. Do Keep Your Bathroom Clean
  • #58. Don't Buy Things, Get Gifts
  • #59. Don't Overuse Hair Product
  • #60. Don't Wear Skinny Jeans
  • #61. Don't Speak to Children Like They're Children
  • #62. Don't Go for the Hottest Girl in the Room
  • #63. Don't Be Afraid of Women
  • #64. Don't Be Creepy
  • #65. Don't Chase, Do Attract
  • #66. Do Hold Up
  • Conclusion
  • Acknowledgments
  • My Man Sheet
  • Recommended Reading
  • Recommended Listening
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Therapist Kim (The Angry Therapist) shares his own experiences with failure and heartache in this entertaining and helpful memoir-cum-guide for living intended to help men in need of guidance on how to turn their lives around. After going through a difficult divorce, therapist Kim started a blog to voice his emotions and soon found his writing allowed him to work through what went wrong. His irreverent prose will be of particular help to closed-off or reluctant readers ("I'm coming with you, not at you. Talking to you like one of my friends-the men I sweat with, eat with, ride motorcycles with, get crepes with and share my fucking feelings with"), allowing them to loosen up and laugh at their shortcomings. Taking a comical but always pragmatic approach, Kim concentrates on what he considers the hardest areas for men to change: processing emotions, developing open communication, defining healthy relationships, and maintaining a healthy work/leisure balance. Kim advises that cultivating self-awareness (which takes hard work) coupled with three steps (accept what is, lean into it, and have the courage to change) will help readers through tough times. With chapters explaining such topics as the difference between (for boys) being nice and (for mature adults) being kind and how indecision can be a sign of immaturity, Kim's blunt tone and easy-to-follow tips will appeal to any man looking for self-improvement. (Jan.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

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