I'll be there for you The one about Friends

Kelsey Miller

Book - 2018

A definitive retrospective of Friends incorporates interviews, history, and behind-the-scenes anecdotes to offer a critical analysis of how a sitcom about six twenty somethings changed television forever.

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Published
Toronto, Ontario, Canada : Hanover Square Press [2018]
Language
English
Main Author
Kelsey Miller (author)
Physical Description
240 pages, 64 unnumbered pages ; 24 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references (pages 245-293) and index.
ISBN
9781335928283
  • Introduction: The Sweet Spot
  • Part 1.
  • 1. The One That Almost Wasn't
  • 2. The One with Six Kids and a Fountain
  • Part 2.
  • 3. The One with Marcel and George Clooney
  • 4. The One Where Two Women Got Married
  • 5. The One Where We All Got the Haircut
  • 6. The One After "The One After the Super Bowl"
  • 7. The One Where They All Go to London (and Everywhere Else in the World)
  • Part 3.
  • 8. The One Where Everything Changed
  • 9. The One Where Nobody Died
  • 10. The One Where It Ended, Twice
  • 11. The Comeback
  • Acknowledgments
  • Source Notes
  • Index
Review by New York Times Review

I WAS A READER without a rudder, trying to make sense of a thick stack of new books by and about people in show business. 1 was looking for an organizing principle, something with which to give the loopy don't-try-this-at-home life lessons offered by the actor Gary Busey the same steady gaze 1 might apply to the cheery, working-bloke wisdom of the actor Michael Caine. And I was failing. Until, that is, Justine Bateman took a breath in the middle of fame (Akashic, $26.99), her own provocatively burbling, expletive-laden throw-down, to acknowledge the work of the sociologist Erving Goffman. Dropping her blue streak, the actor - best remembered as the materialistic teenage daughter Mallory Keaton in the wildly popular Reagan-era sitcom "Family Ties" - refers calmly and respectfully to Goffman's revelatory mid-20th-century analysis of ordinary, private human behavior as theatrical performance in the service of impression management. And just like that, in the middle of an F-bomb-laden anecdote about how fame is fleeting (and how fleeting fame sucks), her scholarly reference offered the key to approaching this seasonal pile of personal narratives: Writing by themselves or with backstage help, remembering the early days or pumping themselves up about the present, coordinating their book publicity and negotiating their next projects, these show people are each working hard to put on a show - a show that sells an image. The reminiscence that brought sociology to mind for the 52-year-old Bateman was about a time in 2008, decades past her teenage celebrity, when she walked a red carpet at a movie opening. "I was at my brother's premiere," she writes, in one of her few uninflected, Freud-ready referenees to her younger brother with his own fame meter, the actor Jason Bateman. "Afilm he was in, maybe 'Hancock,' " she agrees to maybe recall. She made her way past the usual photographers, they snapped their usual snaps, and then they started calling out to whoever was behind her on the assembly line - someone apparently more famous than she was at the time. And that realization of her diminished place in the world order freaked her out. Now the image she is selling, wearing a challenging stare and a sleeveless T-shirt that says HOLLYWOOD in a full-page posterized photo on the back cover of "Fame," is that of a tough chick who says "Don't [expletive] with me, you [expletive], because I am IN NO [EXPLETIVE] MOOD." (I'm paraphrasing.) The subtitle of her book is "The Hijacking of Reality," and she wants her readers to know right off the bat that this is not the autobiography we might think it is because, per her very first sentence, "I [expletive] hate memoirs." Noted. BATEMAN'S I'M-SO-OVER-IT ASSESSMENT IS part furIOUS, part bonkers, and wholly riveting, for reasons she does not fully control. Michael Caine, on the other hand, is 85 years old, and he was in his seasoned early 30s with hundreds of failed auditions behind him when he made his movie breakthrough in "Zulu" (1964), "The Ipcress File" (1965) and "Alfie" (1966). He has been nominated for an Oscar every decade from the 1960s to 2002, he has been knighted and he has had - and continues to have - a grand time. He is very happy with it all, very rich and still very famous. And in his autobiographical performance, he presents the image of the pluckiest, luckiest, hardest-working, most down-to-earth chap in the world. His views on Brexit will not be discussed here. Cheers! Taking one of his most parodied lines from the 1969 comedy-caper "The Italian Job" as his title in blowing the BLOODY DOORS OFF (Hachette, $28), Caine the raconteur provides exactly what an admiring reader would want from the cockney-born Hollywood vet who won an Oscar for playing Hannah's husband in "Hannah and Her Sisters" in 1986, then revived a sagging career in 1992 as Ebenezer Scrooge in "The Muppet Christmas Carol," and is perhaps best known to today's youngest movie generation as Batman's butler in Christopher Nolan's "Dark Knight" trilogy. The book is based on material Caine first developed almost three decades ago when he turned a master class in movie acting recorded for the BBC into a 1990 book called "Acting in Film." (Both the book and the DVD are still available.) Those doing a side-by-side comparison will see overlaps, including an anecdote, circa 1966, about being obliging to autograph-seekers on a studio-tour bus, a kindness not forgotten by the then-unknown student busdriver, who went on to become the Hollywood agent and power broker Mike Ovitz. Caine's advice is the avuncular and sensible two-bits of a working-class lad made good: Be prepared, be reliable, be decent to others, learn your craft, give it your all, do what you do because you love to do it, not in search of money and fame. Also, don't drink too much, as he says he did in the early 1970s. But bugger Caine's acting tips. The great stuff is when he recalls his days in swinging 1960s England. Back then, Terence Stamp was his flatmate; Vidal Sassoon was his barber; he was cast in productions with unknowns Donald Sutherland and Peter O'Toole; and one afternoon in a cafe, a chum called David Baron announced he was going to chuck acting and write a play with a role for Caine. Only, Baron said, asa writer, he would use his real name: Harold Pinter. There is equally great stuff when Caine blithely talks about having participated in a lot of junk. "I made a lot of bad movies - because I made a lot of movies," he says in a kind of written shrug. "On the TV shows where they selected the year's best and worst films I was usually on both lists." My hunch is that he was equally delighted to walk all red carpets. If you're looking for stage lessons from a whole other cosmos, consider Kathleen turner on acting (Skyhorse, $24.99), in which the film professor Dustin Morrow engages the distinctive Ms. Türner in conversation, and the distinctive Ms. Türner says the first thing she does with any script is to "take a black magic marker and line out all the stage directions." She also says that "if I'm consistently making a mistake on a line, it's because the line is problematic." Playwrights, start your shudders. AND FOR VERY DIFFERENT impression management of a very different fame, turn to NEVER GROW UP (Gallery Books, $26), by the peerless martial-arts actor Jackie Chan. Specifically, the book is by Chan - translated by Jeremy Tiang from the 2015 Chinese publication - in close coordination with Zhu Mo, who introduces himself as the star's longtime friend and movie publicist, and who appears in odd little boxed-off "behind the scenes" asides offering supportive admiration. The narration is both candid and formal, blunt and methodical, informative and somewhat distant. Those so inclined might further study Goffman's theses to consider the ways effective impression management also relies on shared cultural styles. Once a star primarily in Asia, where the nimble, humorous Everyman type he created - an Everyman with phenomenal acrobatic skills - distinguished him as the attitudinal opposite and celebrity successor of Bruce Lee, Chan is now an international success, with the Hollywood track record and 2016 honorary Academy Award for lifetime achievement to prove it. Yet in "Never Grow Up," he narrates with an opacity that demonstrates no interest in be- ing an ingratiating international star. And that tonal reserve makes some of his stories more disconcerting than perhaps he intended. His neutral voice is apt for his descriptions of his unhappy childhood - an unpromising student who hated school, he was separated from his parents (who moved to Australia for his father's work) and sent away as a boy to China Drama Academy, a Dickensian establishment of harsh routine and punishment. But the same affectless telling is more unnerving when he describes his illiteracy, his out-of-control spending habits, his gambling and, especially, the harsh ways he has treated his wife, Joan, and son, Jaycee, over the years. When father and son traveled by plane together for the first time, Chan took his seat in the first-class cabin; he put Jaycee in economy, saying, "When you have your own money, you can sit up front with me. You have no money now, so you sit here." The boy was 6. IF JACKI ECHANISABUMMER, Gary Busey is a humdinger - as he has been onscreen, too, in unhinged projects including "The Buddy Holly Story" (for which he received an Oscar nomination in 1979), "Lethal Weapon" and "Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas." Writing with his romantic partner, Steffanie Sampson, he calls his little cobbled-together book buseyisms (St. Martin's, $24.99). As an example of whatever the heck that is, his subtitle is "Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth," which, in a caps-letter way, spells out BIBLE. There's also "Taking Real Understanding To Heart," "Self-Imposed Nonsense," "Wanted In Forever Eternity" and oh so many more. They don't mean a thing. But they do move the story along from anecdotes about success and failure (with losses of prestige that would make Justine Bateman wince), to chatter about divorce, a near-fatal motorcycle accident, a drug overdose and his many pals, including the plastic surgeon who fixed the star's face after he was treated for cancer. Busey babbles away with galumphing energy. He and his plastic surgeon "had fun on our excursions together, and 1 took him to a lot of movie premieres and concerts. On Aug. 6, 2010, he tragically died in a car accident on Pacific Coast Highway; he is now an angel in the spiritual realm." ANYway....! IF I DON'T dwell too long on the next biggest stack of new books on the holiday shelves, that's because readership will sort itself out without any need for critical guidance. Those who are devotees of the cult series may be happy to have MONSTERS OF THE WEEK: The Complete Critical Companion to The X-Files (Abrams, $30), by the pop culture writers Zack Handlen and Todd VanDerWerff. ft's an episode-by-episode recap, with commentary. There, that's the review. The "1 Want to Believe" crowd will no doubt have bones to pick and disagreements to air concerning the authors' editorial comments about each episode, because, TV tagline to the contrary, the truth about bests and worsts is never out there. Those whose hearts are true to a different saga might seek out anything you can imagine: Peter Jackson and the Making of Middle-earth (HarperCollins, $29.99), by the British film writer fan Nathan. He is an experienced how-they-did-it guy, having previously written about the making of "Alien," "Terminator," "Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them" and the oeuvres of Tim Burton and Joel and Ethan Coen. Here he hoovers up minutiae about the whole "Lord of the Rings" movie-epic-ofall-times thing. His writing style is awe-struck nerd, which suits the material. IN CONTRAST, admiring appreciations of the TV series "Friends" and "Sex and the City" get less list-? and more feel-y treatment - a difference in approach 1 will risk sisterly disapproval to say falls along gender lines. The pop culture writer Kelsey Miller opens I'LL be there for you: The One About Friends (Hanover Square, $26.99), her fangirl dissection, with the dismaying announcement that she was 10 years old when the show debuted on NBC in 1994. But, she declares, her nostalgia bingeing and New York City life experiences have turned her into an ardent cheerleader for whom no "Friends" anecdote is TMI. Jennifer Keishin Armstrong, a specialist in all-about-the-sitcom projects following the success of "Seinfeldia" and "Mary and Lou and Rhoda and Ted" (and, not TMI, a former colleague at Entertainment Weekly) approaches the close study she calls "SEX AND THE CITY AND US: How Four Single Women Changed the Way We Think, Live and Love" (Simon & Schuster, $26), very personally. Two decades after the show's premiere on HBO, she says she did her research as someone who saw her own life as a young, single woman in New York reflected and amplified in the adventures of Carrie and Miranda and Charlotte and Samantha. THESE BOOKS ARE for people who loved these shows; you know who you are. There is one book this season, however, guaranteed to engross anybody with any interest at all in Hollywood, in movies, in #MeToo and in the never-ending story of men with power and women without. Karina Longworth places the willful, wounded and wounding mogul Howard Hughes at the center Of SEDUCTION: Sex, Lies and Stardom in Howard Hughes's Hollywood (Custom House/Morrow, $29.99). And no matter how much we think we may know about Hughes - the millionaire, the aviator, the studio head, the filmmaker, the eccentric, the commitment-phobic womanizer whose strange allure entranced some of Hollywood's most famous screen goddesses - Longworth puts the man, the women and the whole flesh-peddling movie-biz circus in a new and timely perspective. She does this by giving each woman and girl, each star and starlet, each fresh hopeful and disappointed discard her own place on the page as a person with a soul of her own: Here is Hughes with Billie Dove, Jean Harlow, Katharine Hepburn, Ginger Rogers, Ava Gardner, Bette Davis, Jane Russell, Rita Hayworth and Lana Türner. (He supposedly had them all.) Here, too, is Hughes sending the enabling henchmen who worked for him to procure any unknown young woman whose image he fancied by hiring them to do nothing much, with no hope of professional advancement. A former film editor of LA Weekly and critic for The Village Voice, in recent years Longworth has found a felicitous form for her keen interest in old Hollywood in her terrific podcast "You Must Remember This." "Seduction" is the valuable synthesis of her curiosity, her analytical strengths and her modern feminist orientation that results in a vibrant writing style poised between warm compassion and cool critical documentation of what ought to have been horrifying, and never was, in show business. In 1941, she writes, "Howard Hughes would move from pursuing top female stars to pursuing young (sometimes very young) women whose careers had not yet gotten very far off the ground. More than ever before, he would become obsessed with controlling these women, seeking to tie them up via marriage proposals or long-term contracts - or both - and taking ownership over their bodies and how they were presented to the public - or weren't." Hughes reached the peak of his powers over the destiny of women with his improbable ownership of RKO Pictures from 1948 to 1955. Yet in the decades that followed, as he became more and more isolated and paranoid before his puny death in 1976, young women were still willing to sign on to terms of "employment" with the rich and powerful man they hoped would make them stars. There were no hashtagged movements to encourage their protest. Longworth evokes the pathos of this deception with a controlled outrage of her own. LISA SCHWARZBAUM, a former critic at Entertainment Weekly, is a freelance journalist.

Copyright (c) The New York Times Company [July 11, 2019]
Review by Booklist Review

This detailed, affectionate look at the history of 1990s megahit Friends traces the show from its beginnings, as a buzzed-about pilot in 1994, to one of the defining cultural touchstones for an entire generation. The focus is narrow, to the book's benefit; Miller (Big Girl, 2016) is not concerned with the personal lives of Friends' famous stars, except in cases where real-life events directly affect the show itself (as in the case of Lisa Kudrow's pregnancy leading to the arc in which Phoebe has twins), and this focus keeps the book slim and readable. In addition to an examination of the show's development and mind-boggling popularity, this is also an analysis of common critiques of Friends: for its whiteness, homophobia, and fatphobia. Although Miller's perspective is clearly biased in the show's favor, she does not ignore its more problematic elements, even if her conclusions are not likely to satisfy Friends' critics. Hand this to fans of the show and to readers who enjoy pop-culture histories, who will tear through this smart, nostalgic read.--Martha Waters Copyright 2018 Booklist

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Review by Library Journal Review

Miller (Big Girl) offers a loving, insightful, and entertaining tour through the ten-season run of the TV sitcom Friends. Beginning with showrunners David Crane and Marta Kauffman pitching a show about six Gen Xers operating as a found family in New York City, the book follows the casting and writing of the program, which ran from 1994 to 2004 on NBC and still enjoys popularity in syndication. Highlights include the cast's determination to work as an ensemble and the importance of filming before a studio audience-with writers retooling jokes on the spot to elicit greater laughs. Miller also revisits the will-they-or-won't-they drama on-screen (Ross and Rachel) and off-screen (publicized contract negotiations that threatened the renewal of Friends). Finally, the author doesn't shy away from more modern criticisms of the series' homophobia, lack of inclusivity, and jokes that rely on body- or slut-shaming. VERDICT Miller successfully revisits a classic television show, demonstrating its larger place in pop culture. A must-read for fans of Must See TV.-Terry Bosky, Madison, WI © Copyright 2018. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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Review by Kirkus Book Review

Lifestyle journalist Miller (Big Girl: How I Gave up Dieting and Got a Life, 2016) goes behind the scenes of Friends.In the same rough semantic domain as Seinfeld and the now-forgotten HBO comedy Dream On, Friends had all the virtues and some of the vices of its erawhich, the author reminds us, is a quarter-century ago now. It was resolutely white, determinedly nondiverse, and marked by all the gay jokes and sexist tropes of the era, though over its long run it began to change. Miller notes, for example, that Friends featured the first lesbian wedding, though it shied away from anything particularly overt and certainly anything political. Rather blandly, the author explains, "the general consensus was that TV in that time was not a sophisticated or inclusive landscape, and in some ways Friends was better than its peers"i.e., something was better than nothing. One reason for the success of Friends, Miller capably shows, was the absolute rightness of its cast, some of whomDavid Schwimmer in particularwere reluctant, others shrewd in asserting the wisdom of allowing them to make notes and pull together as a true ensemble. (On that note, Courtney Cox emerges as a real hero.) Said one Rolling Stone writer who covered the show, "I've never seen a caststick together to the degree they did." Given the post-Friends fortunes of those cast members, it would seem that lightning had been captured in a bottle. Miller is good at the small moments, less so about threading the show into the general culture. And for those clamoring for a reunion, as every other show of the time seems to be rebooting? Let cast member Lisa Kudrow tell it: "That was about people in their twenties, thirties. The show isn't about people in their forties, fifties. And if we have the same problems, that's just sad."Nostalgic and affectionate, with plenty of dish; just the thing for fans of the show. Copyright Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

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