Standing at the edge Finding freedom where fear and courage meet

Joan Halifax

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Published
New York : Flatiron Books 2018.
Language
English
Main Author
Joan Halifax (author)
Other Authors
Rebecca Solnit (writer of foreword)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
xix, 280 pages ; 25 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references (pages [255]-270) and index.
ISBN
9781250101341
  • Foreword
  • A View From The Edge
  • Edge States
  • No Mud, No Lotus
  • Vast View
  • Interdependence
  • Futility and Courage
  • 1. Altruism
  • I. At The High Edge Of Altruism
  • Self, Selfish, or Selfless?
  • Forgetting the Self
  • II. Falling Over The Edge Of Altruism: Pathological Altruism
  • Help That Harms
  • Healthy or Not?
  • Fire Lotus
  • Altruism Bias
  • III. Altruism And The Other Edge States
  • IV. Practices That Support Altruism
  • Practicing Not-Knowing
  • Practicing Bearing Witness
  • Compassionate Action
  • V. Discovery At The Edge Of Altruism
  • The Wooden Puppet and the Wounded Healer
  • Love
  • 2. Empathy
  • I. At The High Edge Of Empathy
  • Somatic Empathy
  • Emotional Empathy
  • Cognitive Empathy
  • Take a Knee
  • Throughout the Body, Hands and Eyes
  • II. Falling Over The Edge Of Empathy: Empathic Distress
  • Empathy Is Not Compassion
  • Empathic Arousal
  • Emotional Blunting and Blindness
  • Between Gift and Invasion
  • III. Empathy And The Other Edge States
  • IV. Practices That Support Empathy
  • Deep Listening
  • Stewarding Empathy
  • The Practice of Rehumanization
  • V. Discovery At The Edge Of Empathy
  • 3. Integrity
  • I. Standing At The High Edge Of Integrity
  • Moral Nerve and Radical Realism
  • Living by Vow
  • II. Falling Over The Edge of Integrity: Moral Suffering
  • Moral Distress
  • The Pain of Moral Injury
  • Moral Outrage and the Stickiness of Anger and Disgust
  • Moral Apathy and the Death of the Heart
  • III. Integrity And The Other Edge States
  • IV. Practices That Support Integrity
  • Expanding the Circle of Inquiry
  • Vows to Live By
  • Practicing Gratefulness
  • V. Discovery At The Edge Of Integrity
  • 4. Respect
  • I. Standing At The High Edge Of Respect
  • Respect for Others, Principles, and Ourselves
  • Two Hands Together
  • Washing the Feet of Others
  • Water Is Life
  • II. Falling Over The Edge Of Respect: Disrespect
  • Bullying
  • Horizontal Hostility
  • Internalized Oppression
  • Vertical Violence
  • Power With and Power Over
  • Stripped of Dignity
  • Angulimala
  • Causes and Effects
  • III. Respect And The Other Edge States
  • IV. Practices That Support Respect
  • The Drama Triangle
  • The Five Gatekeepers of Speech
  • Exchanging Self with Other
  • V. Discovery At The Edge Of Respect
  • 5. Engagement
  • I. At The High Edge Of Engagement
  • Energy, Involvement, Efficacy
  • The Gift of Busyness
  • II. Falling Over The Edge Of Engagement: Burnout
  • Who Burns Out?
  • Addicted to Busyness
  • Drinking the Poison of Work Stress
  • III. Engagement And The Other Edge States
  • IV. Practices That Support Engagement
  • Work Practice
  • Practicing Right Livelihood
  • No Work Practice
  • V. Discovery At The Edge Of Engagement
  • Play
  • Connection
  • 6. Compassion At The Edge
  • I. Survival Of The Kindest
  • Science and Compassion
  • II. Three Faces Of Compassion
  • Referential Compassion
  • Insight-Based Compassion
  • Non-Referential Compassion
  • Asanga and the Red Dog
  • III. The Six Perfections
  • IV. Compassion's Enemies
  • The Arithmetic of Compassion
  • Falling In and Out of Compassion
  • V. Mapping Compassion
  • Compassion Is Made of Non-Compassion Elements
  • VI. Compassion Practice
  • Practicing Grace
  • VII. Compassion In The Charnel Ground
  • Harrowing from Hell
  • The Magic Mirror
  • Acknowledgments
  • Notes
  • Index
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

In this wise exploration of the search for meaning, Halifax (Being with Dying), an anthropologist and Buddhist teacher, lays out a philosophy of life through a central metaphor of "edge states" (interpersonal qualities "where opposites meet"), which she deems key values necessary for a life worth living. These include altruism, empathy, integrity, respect, and engagement. Halifax notes that those who pursue them risk suffering burnout or other emotional distress if they concentrate on one attribute above others. She delves deeply into each value, explaining the ideal and how to achieve it through a combination of personal stories, quotes, and lessons from Buddhist teachers (such as Thich Nhat Hanh and the Dalai Lama) and scientific research. For instance, when talking about respect, she gives an example of the Dalai Lama pausing a lecture to help an insect escape the room, then later contrasts such deep conscientiousness with disturbing statistics about bullying, which she considers a reaction to a perceived lack of respect. Halifax's personal stories resonate deeply, particularly with regard to her work with incarcerated people in New Mexico and poor communities in Nepal; her life experiences as a scholar, activist, and nun have much to teach any reader, and her generous honesty invites reflection. Clear, detailed, and profound, this remarkable book will be appreciated by anyone seeking a framework for a meaningful life. (May) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.