Creating compassionate kids Essential conversations to have with young children
Book - 2019
Young children can surprise us with tough questions. Tominey's essential guide teaches us how to answer them and foster compassion along the way. If you had to choose one word to describe the world you want children to grow up in, what would it be? Safe? Understanding? Resilient? Compassionate? As parents and caregivers of young children, we know what we want for our children, but not always how to get there. Many children today are stressed by academic demands, anxious about relationships at school, confused by messages they hear in the media, and overwhelmed by challenges at home. Young children look to the adults in their lives for everything. Sometimes we're prepared... sometimes we're not. In this book, Shauna Tomin...ey guides parents and caregivers through how to have conversations with young children about a range of topics-from what makes us who we are (e.g., race, gender) to tackling challenges (e.g., peer pressure, divorce, stress) to showing compassion (e.g., making friends, recognizing privilege, being a helper). Talking through these topics in an age-appropriate manner--rather than telling children they are too young to understand--helps children recognize how they feel and how they fit in with the world around them. This book provides sample conversations, discussion prompts, storybook recommendations, and family activities. Dr. Tominey's research-based strategies and practical advice creates dialogues that teach self-esteem, resilience, and empathy: the building blocks for a more compassionate world.
- Subjects
- Published
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New York :
W. W. Norton & Company
[2019]
- Language
- English
- Main Author
- Edition
- First edition
- Physical Description
- x ; 270 pages ; 26 cm
- Bibliography
- Includes bibliographical references and index.
- ISBN
- 9780393711592
- Acknowledgments
- Chapter 1. Creating compassionate kids: The importance of conversations
- Taking children's feelings seriously during early childhood
- The importance of conversations in early childhood
- Millions of neurons, millions of words
- Chapter II. You are loved: Modeling compassionate parenting
- You are loved
- Your feelings help your parents know what you need
- Your parents use words to teach you and guide you
- You can express your feelings in different ways
- Everyone is a learner
- Making mistakes is part of learning
- Chapter III. You are your own person: Building self-awareness
- You are special
- Temperament
- Race
- Sex and gender
- Your body
- Abilities and disabilities
- Sexual orientation
- Your family is special
- There are many different types of families
- All families have beliefs, culture, and values
- Chapter IV. You are part of the world around you: Fostering resilience
- You can talk to your family about anything
- Love, relationships, and sex
- Divorce
- Peer pressure
- Bullying
- Safe and unsafe touches (abuse)
- Substance use and abuse
- Death
- Suicide
- Incarceration
- Guns and violence
- Chapter V. You can be a helper: Promoting compassion
- We should be kind to everyone, starting with our own family
- Thinking about other people's feelings can help us get along
- Having good manners is one way to show kindness and compassion
- There are things you can do to be a good friend
- Making amends means more than saying sorry
- There are no bad kids, but some kids have more challenges than others
- Privilege impacts our lives in different ways
- We can each make a difference in our own way
- Conclusion
- References
- Index