Single, gay, Christian A personal journey of faith and sexual identity

Gregory Coles, 1990-

Book - 2017

"In an age where neither society nor the church knows what to do with gay Christians, Greg Coles tells his own story. Let's make a deal, you and me. Let's make promises to each other. I promise to tell you my story. The whole story. I'll tell you about a boy in love with Jesus who, at the fateful onset of puberty, realized his sexual attractions were persistently and exclusively for other guys. I'll tell you how I lay on my bed in the middle of the night and whispered to myself the words I've whispered a thousand times since: "I'm gay." I'll show you the world through my eyes. I'll tell you what it's like to belong nowhere. To know that much of my Christian family will forever cons...ider me unnatural, dangerous, because of something that feels as involuntary as my eye color. And to know that much of the LGBTQ community that shares my experience as a sexual minority will disagree with the way I've chosen to interpret the call of Jesus, believing I've bought into a tragic, archaic ritual of self-hatred. But I promise my story won't all be sadness and loneliness and struggle. I'll tell you good things too, hopeful things, funny things, like the time I accidentally came out to my best friend during his bachelor party. I'll tell you what it felt like the first time someone looked me in the eyes and said, "You are not a mistake." I'll tell you that joy and sorrow are not opposites, that my life has never been more beautiful than when it was most brokenhearted. If you'll listen, I promise I'll tell you everything, and you can decide for yourself what you want to believe about me."--

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Published
Downers Grove, Illinois : IVP Books, an imprint of InterVarsity Press [2017]
Language
English
Main Author
Gregory Coles, 1990- (author)
Physical Description
120 pages ; 21 cm
ISBN
9780830845125
  • Prelude: promises
  • Revelation
  • Almost straight
  • Debating the divine
  • What God called good
  • Interlude: a song for the unknowing
  • Stranger incognito
  • To know as I am known
  • Nature abhors a vacuum
  • Quo vadis?
  • Postlude: a letter to myself at age twelve.
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Coles uses his personal experiences to reflect on what it means to be both a committed evangelical Christian and gay. Although he leaves his theology vague, he concludes that based on his own reading, the Bible doesn't offer any room for same-sex relationships. Yet he also does not support conversion therapy. Instead, he claims the identity of gay celibate. Hence, his book is one of the few that expresses the hopes, challenges, and concerns of a new generation of sexually self-denying gay Christians. His best insights are too-briefly presented but include the notion that celibacy reminds other Christians that discipleship should be costly and the assertion that the Fall has distorted all sexuality, not just homosexuality. He also convincingly argues that being gay allows him to view women as more than sexual objects and fellow men as worthy of love. Coles offers only vague details of his own life and he universally characterizes the interactions he has with fellow Christians after he comes out as positive. As a result, his book seems a little too rosy for such a thorny position. Coles's work will raise questions for those involved in the debates about Christianity and sexuality because it pushes for a third way between discarding tradition and ignoring identity. (Aug.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

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Review by Library Journal Review

"I've lost count of how many times over the years I've come out to family and friends. It's a bit like stripping naked every time someone asks to see your tattoo," says Coles (English, Pennsylvania State Univ.). With refreshing candor, the author documents his journey from growing up in an Evangelical faith community and holding traditional biblical views to praying to be straight, to no avail. His thoughtful, intentional path leads him to conclude that he is "a mythical creature"; that is, a committed Christian man who, realizing he is gay, does not act on his same-sex impulses. His decision to remain celibate renders him equally misunderstood by both his Evangelical family and his LGBTQ community. VERDICT A modern reflection on what constitutes an authentic faith. The power of Coles's book is his honest battle with faith and identity politics, meditating ever so sparingly on how the world might be.-SC © Copyright 2017. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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