The relationship fix Dr. Jenn's 6-step guide to improving communication, connection & intimacy
Book - 2016
"Relationships aren't easy, even the good ones.If you are on the verge of a divorce or break-up, in a great relationship, but want to take it to the next level, or single and want to make sure your next relationship is better, this book is for you. Based on cutting-edge research and almost three decades of clinical experience as a Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice, Dr. Jenn Mannteaches you everything you need to know have a deeper, more satisfying relationship, and the skills to fix one that isn't working. Reading Dr. Jenn's book is like sitting down with her for a personal session in her treatment room. Using her tell-it-like-it-is approach, Dr. Jenn guides you through the six steps needed to get your re...lationship on track and helps you to: * Use conflicts to strengthen your relationship * Create connection with your partner, even if you haven't felt it for years * Change bad patterns * Recognize and know what to do whenunresolved issues are hurting the relationship * Negotiate effectively to get your needs met * Make an effective apology using the four R's * Learn to forgive * Reignite your sex life The Relationship Fix is also filled with case studies and stories from Dr. Jenn's clients on VH1's Couples Therapy with Dr. Jennand her popular radio show, and on her own personal experiences"--
- Subjects
- Published
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New York :
Sterling
2016.
- Language
- English
- Main Author
- Physical Description
- xv, 335 pages ; 24 cm
- Bibliography
- Includes bibliographical references (pages 299-325) and index.
- ISBN
- 9781454915263
- Foreword
- Introduction
- Step 1. Create Connection
- Connection Is King
- Thirty-Six Questions That Will Make Your Partner Fall in Love with You
- Attachment Needs from Cradle to Grave
- The Culture of Autonomy
- Attachment Threats
- Danger, Will Robinson
- Benefits of Attachment
- Developing and Maintaining Trust
- Take the High Road
- Become an Expert on Your Partner
- Ten Ways to Foster Connection in Your Relationship
- Connection Deal Breakers
- Invest Time and Energy in Your Relationship
- Step 2. Fight Fair
- The Four Core Relationship Needs
- The Honeymoon Is Over
- Ten Reasons Why You Think You Are Fighting
- The Ten Real Reasons Why You Are Fighting
- Why Fight Fair?
- Twelve Rules to Fight Fair
- Twelve Tips for Communicating Better and Deescalating Conflict
- Anger Management 101
- Domestic Violence
- I Can Stop Any Time I Want: Addiction
- All's Fair in Love and War
- Step 3. Negotiate
- Let the Negotiating Begin
- Conflict in Long-Term Relationships
- Nothing to Fear But Fear Itself: Why You Can't Fear Conflict
- Beginning a Difficult Negotiation
- Stop! In the Name of Love: Ten Things That Prevent Healthy Negotiations
- Spheres of Influence
- More Than a Feeling
- Six Skills You Need to Reduce Conflict in Your Relationship
- Step 4. Work Through Your Childhood
- Parents Are Our First Mirrors
- Why We Marry Our Parents and Why It Hurts So Much
- Your Imago
- Family Systems 101
- But That's How You Discipline a Kid!
- How Trauma Changes Us
- Trauma and Intimacy
- The Five Abuses
- Everyone Is Here But No One Is Home
- Victim No More: Moving Past Your Childhood and Having a Healthy Relationship
- Step 5. Forgive and Make Amends
- Get Off Your High Horse
- It's Not Personal
- Relationship Crimes and Misdemeanors
- Part A. The Four Rs of Apology
- After the Action Plan
- Part B. Your Contribution
- To Forgive or Not to Forgive, That Is the Question
- Cheap Forgiveness
- What Is Forgiveness Anyway?
- Being a "Human Bean"
- What to Do When You Want to Forgive But Can't
- Bottom Line
- Is This Really Closure?
- Step 6. Ignite Your Sex Life
- Mind-Blowing Sex
- Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Blow, Kiss, Lick, or Have Sex
- In Defense of Monogamy
- Monogamy, Not Monotony
- Happy Endings
- Appendix A. 36 Questions
- Appendix B. Sexual Inventory
- References
- Acknowledgments
- Index