The new

The new "I do" Reshaping marriage for skeptics, realists, and rebels

Susan Pease Gadoua

Book - 2014

"If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn't look like the next and isn't meant to last until death, there's nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that. In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financia...l security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths. With advice and quizzes to help readers decide what works for them, The New I Do acts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century"--

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Subjects
Marriage.
Married people.
Man-woman relationships.
Interpersonal relations.
Marital quality.
Published
Berkeley, California : Seal Press [2014]
Language
English
Main Author
Susan Pease Gadoua (author)
Other Authors
Vicki Larson, 1956- (author)
Physical Description
232 pages ; 21 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN
9781580055451
  • Introduction
  • Have We Outgrown Marriage?
  • Why Put a Ring on It?
  • Starter Marriage: Trying On Marriage to See if It Fits
  • Companionship Marriage: You've Got a Friend
  • Parenting Marriage: Truly Planned Parenthood
  • Living Alone Together: Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
  • Covenant Marriage: Extreme Marriage Makeovers
  • Safety Marriage: Money Can Buy You Love and Happiness
  • Open Marriage: Why Monogamy?
  • To Pre or Not to Pre When Your Mate Pops the Question
  • Open Mind, Open Dialog
Review by Library Journal Review

Coauthors licensed therapist Gadoua (Stronger Day by Day; Contemplating Divorce) and journalist Larson present a refreshing analysis of the institution of marriage and explain various creative alternatives to the traditional approach to it. The age-old concept of marriage that is being turned upside down involves a male and a female legally married for life, who are faithful to each other, have at least two kids, and hold down income-generating jobs that enable the family to stay in one place at least until the couple reaches retirement. Unfortunately, with a divorce rate in America of 50 percent and rising, clearly the time calls for new definitions. In addition to questioning the need for marriage, the authors thoroughly describe various alternatives, such as marriages of companionship, parenting, safety, distance, and so on. Also discussed are diverse approaches to prenuptial agreements. Instead of a reinvigorated system of marital therapy, the authors present a reasoned, objective discussion of modern models of marriage that are rapidly becoming real across the country. Each idea is impressively analyzed and explained, with a succinct summary list of related pros and cons. The solid, erudite style pleasantly eschews the usual hype found in other works on the subject. VERDICT Highly recommended for libraries supporting the helping professions and essential for all marriage therapists.-Dale Farris, Groves, TX (c) Copyright 2014. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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