Mindful discipline : a loving approach to setting limits and raising an emotionally intelligent child

Mindful discipline A loving approach to setting limits and raising an emotionally intelligent child

Shauna L. Shapiro

Book - 2014

"Raising happy, compassionate, and responsible children requires both love and limits. In Mindful Discipline, internationally recognized mindfulness expert Shauna Shapiro and pediatrician Chris White weave together ancient wisdom and modern science to provide new perspectives on parenting and discipline. Grounded in mindfulness and neuroscience, this pioneering book redefines discipline and outlines the five essential elements necessary for children to thrive: unconditional love, space for children to be themselves, mentorship, healthy boundaries, and mis-takes that create learning and growth opportunities. In this book, you will also discover parenting practices such as setting limits with love, working with difficult emotions, and fo...rgiveness and compassion meditations that place discipline within a context of mindfulness. This relationship-centered approach will restore your confidence as a parent and support your children in developing emotional intelligence, self-discipline, and resilience-qualities they need for living an authentic and meaningful life"--

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Subjects
Emotions in children.
Awareness.
Child rearing.
Parenting.
Published
Oakland, CA : New Harbinger Publications [2014]
Language
English
Main Author
Shauna L. Shapiro (-)
Other Authors
Chris White, 1970- (-)
Physical Description
xiv, 206 pages : illustrations ; 23 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references (pages 203-206).
ISBN
9781608828845
  • Foreword
  • Foreword
  • Acknowledgments
  • Part 1. A Discipline We Can Feel Proud Of
  • Introduction
  • 1. Why Discipline Matters
  • The Key to a Healthy Mind and a Fulfilling Life
  • 2. How Self-Discipline Develops
  • Growing From Impulses to Judgments to Authenticity
  • 3. Mindfulness
  • Nourishment for Life and Parenting
  • 4. The Mindful Discipline Approach
  • Transmitting Self-Discipline
  • 5. Relationship
  • The Source of Nourishment
  • Part 2. The Five Essential Elements of Mindful Discipline
  • 6. Unconditional Love
  • Preserving Trust and Inherent Value
  • 7. Space
  • Supporting Autonomy, Competence, and Responsibility
  • 8. Mentorship
  • Promoting Healthy Habits, Strong Values, and Emotional Intelligence
  • 9. Healthy Boundaries
  • Encouraging Impulse Control and Adaptability
  • 10. Mis-Takes
  • The Gifts of Compassion, Humility, and Forgiveness
  • 11. The Heart of Maturity
  • How Emotional Intelligence and Resilience Are Grown
  • 12. Epilogue
  • Appendices
  • A. Discipline and the Brain
  • B. The Basics of Attachment
  • C. Qualities and Capacities of a Healthy, Self-Disciplined Individual
  • D. The Promise and Perils of Praise
  • Suggested Reading
  • References
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Using the word "discipline" to mean self-regulation in alignment with personal values, this gentle handbook teaches parents Buddhist-style practices of mindfulness as a basis to access their own wisdom and meet their children's needs with the right mix of love and limits. Clinical psychologist Shapiro (The Art and Science of Mindfulness) and pediatrician White see the process of parenting as having five essential elements: the yin factors of unconditional love and space to build autonomy and competence balance the yang factors of mentorship and healthy boundaries, and the lessons in humility and forgiveness that come from our "mistakes." Breaking from their calm tone, the authors criticize both authoritarian and permissive parenting approaches as unhealthy, in contrast to their preferred "authoritative" approach, which gives children clear limits and hierarchy, but as containers that make them feel receptive and safe rather than as tools of control. Though oversimplified descriptions of the physiology behind feelings of safety and fear prove distracting, Shapiro and White's commitment to balanced parenting gives readers motivation to become strong role models. (June) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

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Review by Library Journal Review

Mindfulness expert Shapiro and pediatrician White describe a holistic system in which parents improve their child's behavior and promote cooperation while at the same time fostering motivation, emotional intelligence, self-esteem, and resilience. The authors offer five elements of mindful discipline: unconditional love, space for children to be themselves, mentorship and transfer of values, and the admission of one's own mistakes. The carefulness edge takes place, the authors say, when parents develop their own self-awareness and can adopt their child's perspective. This enables the child to choose the best course of action based on the competing needs of the moment, instead of their own history. VERDICT Combining parenting skills with the practice of mindfulness is genius. Essential for anyone raising a family. (c) Copyright 2014. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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