Co-parenting with a toxic ex : what to do when your ex-spouse tries to turn the kids against you

Co-parenting with a toxic ex What to do when your ex-spouse tries to turn the kids against you

Amy J. L. Baker

Book - 2014

"There's no question about it: your children are the most important thing in your life. But if you have gone through a messy divorce, your relationship with your children may become strained if you have to deal with a toxic ex. Your ex may bad-mouth you in front of the kids, accuse you of being a bad parent, and even attempt to replace you in the children's lives with a new partner. As a result, your children may become confused, conflicted, angry, anxious, or depressed-and you may feel powerless. In Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex, a nationally recognized parenting expert offers you a positive parenting approach to dealing with a hostile ex-spouse. You'll learn to avoid the most common mistakes of coparenting, how to avoid... "parental alienation syndrome," and effective techniques for talking to your children in a way that fosters open and honest response. In addition, you'll learn how to protect your children from painful loyalty conflicts between you and your ex-spouse. Divorce is often painful, especially if your ex habitually tries to undermine your relationship with your children. But with the right tools you can protect your kids and make your relationship with them stronger than ever. This book can show you how. You can find out more about this book and about author Amy J.L. Baker at www.amyjlbaker.com"--

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Subjects
Children of divorced parents.
Children of divorced parents > Family relationships.
Child rearing.
Parent and child.
Parental alienation syndrome.
Parental alienation syndrome > Prevention.
Published
Oakland, CA : New Harbinger Publications c2014.
Language
English
Main Author
Amy J. L. Baker (-)
Other Authors
Paul R. Fine, 1955- (-)
Physical Description
199 pages ; 23 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references (pages 197-199).
ISBN
9781608829583
  • Introduction
  • Causes and consequences of loyalty conflicts in families of divorce
  • How co-parents create loyalty conflicts and how children respond
  • Core concepts of positive parenting
  • Deepening your bond and reducing conflict with your child
  • When your ex is sending poisonous messages about you
  • When your ex is interfering with contact and communication
  • When your ex is erasing and replacing you
  • When your ex is encouraging your child to betray your trust
  • When your ex is undermining your authority and fostering dependency in your child
  • Final words.
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Parenting expert Baker (Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome) and psychotherapist Fine have created a workbook specifically for divorced co-parents who sense they are losing the battle for their children's love, loyalty, and respect. The book features tools, strategies, written exercises, and dialogues designed to help reduce the ex's negative influence and "delay, if not prevent" a child from choosing one parent over another. This guide helps co-parents recognize and understand the signs and symptoms of loyalty struggles and their insidious effects, while offering remedies based in positive and mindful parenting to help fashion a safe and loving environment. The authors suggest the familiar protocol of positive parenting as a way to strengthen the parent-child bond, and, when coupled with mindfulness techniques for personal awareness, this protocol can help unhappy, stressed parents handle the animosity and negative influence of their ex. Like a guerilla manual, the book arms co-parents with tools for coping with a variety of scenarios, including when the ex is sending poisonous messages, interfering with contact and communication, "erasing and replacing," encouraging the child to betray confidences and trust, or undermining the co-parent's authority. Genuinely helpful, this guide tackles a sensitive problem and shows how to diffuse it with accepted and proven psychotherapeutic practices. (May) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

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