- Subjects
- Published
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Berkeley, Calif. :
Cleis Press
[2011]
- Language
- English
- Main Author
- Physical Description
- xx, 249 pages : illustrations ; 23 cm
- Bibliography
- Includes bibliographical references (pages [222]-236) and index.
- ISBN
- 9781573447119
- Foreword
- Introduction
- Chapter 1. Sexual Play
- A New Vocabulary for Sex
- The Best Medicine
- Embracing Our Complexity and Diversity
- Chapter 2. What Works, What Doesn't, and Why
- An Anatomy Review
- An Oral Review
- Sidebar: A Different Kind of Blow Job
- Penetration
- How to Ask
- Masturbation
- Vibrators
- Variety of Pleasures
- One Is Not Always Enough
- Emotional Erogenous Zones
- Tuning In
- Chapter 3. The Physical Experience of Orgasm
- The Myth of the Definitive Orgasm
- Beyond Vaginal and Clitoral
- Combination Orgasms
- Surface Versus Depth
- Pulsing and Contractions
- Pregnancy and Orgasm
- A Vocabulary for Orgasm
- Multiple Orgasms
- Chapter 4. The Energetic Experience of Orgasm
- The Nonphysical Components of Orgasm
- Chemistry: A Psychic Connection
- Emotional Orgasms
- The Intellectual Component: Focusing the Mind
- Aftershocks
- Simultaneous and Empathic Orgasms
- Energy Movement within the Body
- Alignment
- Visuals
- The Power of Fantasy
- Sound
- Extended Orgasm
- Chapter 5. The Spiritual Experience of Orgasm
- The Feminine
- Intuition and Feelings
- Separation, Oneness, and Passion
- Tantra
- Kundalini
- The Breath
- Meditation
- Love, Sex, and Sanity
- Chapter 6. The Elusive Orgasm
- Variations in Desire
- Hysterectomies, Medications, and Aging
- Disappearing Orgasms
- Recognizing an Orgasm
- Anor-gasmic Women
- Cultural Conditioning
- Learning to Come
- Great Expectations
- The Need to Please
- Faking Orgasm
- Do Men Know When We're Faking It?
- Chapter 7. Early Sexual Experiences
- A Child's View of Sex
- Crowing Up Without Information
- Embracing Our Passion
- Negative Messages
- Why Some of Us Love Our Sexual Selves and Some of Us Don't
- When Sex Is Sex and When It's Not
- Sexual Abuse of Children
- Recovery
- Chapter 8. Relationships
- Bodies
- Take Your Time
- Partners
- Withholding Feelings
- A Great Love Doesn't Always Guarantee Great Sex
- Communication
- The Power of No
- The Power of Yes
- Getting Turned On
- Dealing with Difficult Feelings
- Sidebar: How to Recognize a Feeling When It Hits You in the Face
- Getting Down to Business
- Take a Risk, But Don't Take It Seriously
- Asserting Ourselves
- Claiming Our Passion
- It Hurts So Good
- Fears Versus Passion
- Chapter 9. Penetration and the G-Spot
- Lubrication
- The PC muscle
- Penetration Is Not Essential
- But Some of Us Really Love It!
- Virginity: The Arduous Process of Losing It
- Enjoying Penetration
- The Astounding Vagina
- Taking It Slowly
- The G-Spot
- Location, Location, Location
- Toys
- To Use a Dildo...or Not Use a Dildo
- Ode to the Dildo
- Other Orifices
- Chapter 10. Ejaculation, Fisting, and Anal Sex
- The G-Spot and Ejaculation
- What Is It and Where Does It Come From?
- Who? When? How Much?
- The Relationship of Orgasm to Ejaculation
- The Power of Ejaculation
- Vaginal Fisting
- The How-Tos of Vaginal Fisting
- Vaginal Fisting and Orgasms
- Anal Sex
- Chapter 11. The Purpose of Orgasm
- From Pain to Pleasure, and Beyond...
- Responsible Sex, Responsible Living
- Working with Energy
- Empowerment
- Appendix A. Safer Sex
- Appendix B. Resources
- Appendix C. Questionnaire
- About the Author
- Index
Review by Kirkus Book Review