Easy to love, difficult to discipline : the seven basic skills for turning conflict into cooperation

Easy to love, difficult to discipline The seven basic skills for turning conflict into cooperation

Rebecca Anne Bailey, 1952-

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Subjects
Discipline of children.
Child rearing.
Parenting.
Parent and child.
Self-control.
Published
New York : William Morrow 2000.
Language
English
Main Author
Rebecca Anne Bailey, 1952- (-)
Physical Description
x, 285 pages
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9780688161163
  • Acknowledgements
  • 1.. From Willful to Willing
  • 2.. The Seven Powers for Self-Control
  • 3.. The Seven Basic Discipline Skills
  • 4.. Assertiveness: Saying No and Being Heard
  • 5.. Choices: Building Self-Esteem and Willpower
  • 6.. Encouragement: Honoring Your Children So They Can Honor You
  • 7.. Positive Intent: Turning Resistance Into Cooperation
  • 8.. Empathy: Handling The Fussing and the Fits
  • 9.. Consequences: Helping Children Learn From Their Mistakes
  • 10.. Why Children do What They do: the Development of Misbehavior
  • 11.. Loving Guidance in Action: Solving the Top Discipline Problems
  • Parents Doing Their Job
  • "Stay in the yard and play"
  • "Get in your car seat"
  • "Clean your room"
  • "Finish your homework"
  • "Stop hitting your brother--be nice"
  • "It's bedtime"
  • "I'm stopping this car right now"
  • Children Doing Their Job
  • "I had it first"
  • "I'm telling"
  • "Look at me!" "Watch me!" "Watch me!"
  • "I didn't do it"
  • "I hate you"
  • "Why can't I? Everyone else does."
  • "Sydney isn't eating her peas"
  • 12.. The Loving Guidance Program: Change your Life in Seven Weeks
  • Epilogue
  • The "What-Ifs" Page
  • References
  • Index
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

A developmental psychology specialist and early childhood education expert, Bailey contends that the difficult but rewarding task of guiding children's behavior starts only when parents are able to discipline themselves and become models of self-control. By following the author's "7 Powers for Self-Control" (attention, love, acceptance, perception, intention, free will and unity), the parent will then be equipped to use the "7 Basic Discipline Skills" (including choices, encouragement and consequences). Bailey dismisses the familiar fear-inspired approach to discipline many grew up with (including threats and punishment), claiming that it inevitably leads children to make biologically driven choices and may even effect the brain due to the high levels of stress hormones released. Also rejecting the permissive parenting style now popular that favors "reasoning" (which, according to the author, imbues children with a victim mentality), Bailey instead promotes instilling an awareness of misbehavior through communication. Though some may be put off by the gimmicky overuse of slogans and buzz words, Bailey's underlying message is positive and hopeful, supported with humorous anecdotes and helpful solutions to even chronic discipline problems. (Feb.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

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Review by Library Journal Review

Frustrated because your kid won't get in her car seat? Grumpy ever since your son decided that cleaning his room was optional? Ever feel bad after screaming at your kids for these and other things? Moans. Groans. Alas, parenting is no picnic. Bailey (There's Gotta Be a Better Way) acknowledges this and, in this insightful manual, suggests a disciplinary framework called "loving guidance." Loving guidance begins when parents learn seven "powers of self-control," which include acceptance and intention. Next, parents exercise seven basic discipline skills, such as empathy and maintaining composure. The goal is to teach kids the seven "values for living," including respect, compassion, and responsibility. Numerous, often funny lessons akin to those in Mark L. Brenner's When "No" Gets You Nowhere (Prima, 1997) help parents apply the concepts to daily life. Recommended for public libraries.--Douglas C. Lord, Hartford P.L., CT (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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