Mommy burnout How to reclaim your life and raise healthier children in the process

Sheryl Ziegler

Book - 2018

A practical handbook for modern moms outlines recommendations for avoiding impossible standards of perfection, sharing real-world suggestions for breaking burnout cycles and protecting children from the damage of overwhelmed-parenting dynamics.

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Published
New York : Dey St., an imprint of William Morrow [2018]
Language
English
Main Author
Sheryl Ziegler (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
xiii, 311 pages ; 24 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references (pages 287-302) and index.
ISBN
9780062683687
  • Why am I so overwhelmed?: what mommy burnout looks like
  • Didn't I used to have friends?: the connection between mommy burnout and isolation
  • I know my mom is just trying to help: the difficulties of creating a support network
  • How many "likes" did I get today?: the social media mommy trap
  • I just want what's best for my children: how the need to achieve perfection for our kids adds to mommy burnout
  • He just doesn't get it: how burnout puts our marriages in jeopardy
  • What the hell am I doing with my life?: the working mom's dilemma
  • I just can't get it all done ... : the first step in fighting mommy burnout--ban "busy" as a badge of honor
  • I'm sick and tired, all the time: how mommy burnout makes us sick
  • Are my kids burned out, too?
  • Conclusion: #momlife for a new age.
Review by Booklist Review

Being a parent is a tough job, but according to psychologist Ziegler, being a mother is downright brutal and, for some women, a particular type of inescapable nightmare. After years of providing therapy to families, Ziegler began to see the shape of a distinct condition emerge. Mommy Burnout is different than being simply stressed out, unhappy, or anxious. Through narrative re-creations of sessions with her patients, Ziegler describes the experiences of women suffering from isolation from friends, moodiness and irritability toward husband and children, forgetfulness, social-media addiction, lack of sex drive, and feelings of failure and guilt. Styled as self-help, the book asks readers to identify symptoms, with Ziegler offering detailed suggestions on how to change behaviors for the better. Although this book is well researched and broad in scope of topics, it's written for a singular audience the heterosexual, middle-class mother. Beyond this limitation, the harrowing descriptions of how women are suffering are anxiety-inducing in their own right and may make the reader opt to put down the book and call her therapist.--Spanner, Alison Copyright 2018 Booklist

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Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Psychologist Ziegler's superb self-help guide diagnoses "mommy burnout" as a distinctive syndrome of women being mentally and physically exhausted from chronic stress, distinguished from anxiety and depression by being entirely culturally and environmentally based. Thus, Ziegler reassures her audience, the problem is fixable by understanding it and making appropriate lifestyle changes. The book's core advice includes rebuilding both female community networks and close friendships, avoiding overtending to kids, and resisting the urge to multitask and rely on "busy-ness" to feel significant. Grounding each chapter in the extended profile of an individual client from her practice, Ziegler gives a sense of complexity and realism to her example moms, but doing so sometimes causes her narrative to wander into side topics, such as a chapter on support networks that also dives into a consideration of special-needs children, relationships with adult children, and spirituality. The book has compassion and solutions for women on both sides of the working/stay-at-home divide, affirming that both routes leave women open to burnout. Most importantly, Ziegler manages to highlight the problems that family stress can cause for long-term health, for both mother and child, without piling additional guilt on readers already feeling judged by the world. (Feb.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

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Review by Library Journal Review

Born to a teenage single immigrant mother in New York City and then raised in a blended family in upstate New York, Ziegler, a child psychologist and mother of three, brings a variety of perspectives to the table on the issue of the stresses of modern parenting. The author points out that parents feel more pressure than ever owing to busyness and its resulting isolation, the lack of support networks in a world where extended family is often across state lines instead of next door, social media, and the need to find perfect options for everything from preschool to cloth diapering. Throw in career demands and the constant mobility of the current culture and results can range from emotional to physical maladies that put marriages, health, and children themselves at risk. Ziegler shares case studies from her practice in the beginning of each chapter and includes a fun quiz parents can use to gauge their stress in varying areas. Each chapter also includes a prescription plan designed to fight mommy burnout, including strategies such as compartmentalizing your life, creating emotional boundaries, and adding unstructured time to both your own and your child's day. VERDICT Mommy burnout is a common buzzphrase, and Ziegler's book provides a sound resource for anyone struggling in the trenches of parenthood. © Copyright 2018. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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Review by School Library Journal Review

Born to a teenage single immigrant mother in New York City and then raised in a blended family in upstate New York, Ziegler, a child psychologist and mother of three, brings a variety of perspectives to the table on the issue of the stresses of modern parenting. The author points out that parents feel more pressure than ever owing to busyness and its resulting isolation, the lack of support networks in a world where extended family is often across state lines instead of next door, social media, and the need to find perfect options for everything from preschool to cloth diapering. Throw in career demands and the constant mobility of the current culture and results can range from emotional to physical maladies that put marriages, health, and children themselves at risk. Ziegler shares case studies from her practice in the beginning of each chapter and includes a fun quiz parents can use to gauge their stress in varying areas. Each chapter also includes a prescription plan designed to fight mommy burnout, including strategies such as compartmentalizing your life, creating emotional boundaries, and adding unstructured time to both your own and your child's day. VERDICT Mommy burnout is a common buzzphrase, and Ziegler's book provides a sound resource for anyone struggling in the trenches of parenthood.-Julia M. Reffner, Richmond, VA © Copyright 2018. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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