Living the life you love The no-nonsense guide to total transformation

Paula Renaye

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Published
Hot Springs, AR : Diomo Books 2012.
Language
English
Main Author
Paula Renaye (-)
Physical Description
x, 269 p. : 22 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references (p. 271).
ISBN
9780967478692
  • Preface
  • Introduction
  • 1. What Are You "Willing to Do?
  • 2. The Why
  • 3. Just Love Yourself?
  • 4. Carrots and Sticks
  • 5. What's Behind the Mask?
  • 6. Rip Off the Bandage
  • 7. Follow the Yellow Brick Road
  • 8. The Princess and the Rebel
  • 9. Where's the Remote?
  • 10. You Become Who Your Friends Are
  • 11. The Family That Plays Together...
  • 12. Judge, Jury and Jolly Jokers
  • 13. 13 Sanity-Saving Strategies
  • 14. If It's Broken, Fix It
  • 15. It's Okay, I Forgive You
  • 16. Talk Isn't Cheap
  • 17. Healthy Choices
  • 18. If Only...
  • 19. Money, Work and Lovin' It
  • 20. 15 Tough-Love Reminders
  • 21. So, What Do You Want?
  • 22. The Vision Board
  • 23. The Vision Script
  • 24. 33 Tips for the Dips
  • Conclusion
  • Additional Resources
Review by Library Journal Review

Certified professional coach Renaye employs the process of self-discovery as a tool for life change. In a no-nonsense manner, she asks readers to hold themselves responsible for the choices they make, and teaches them how to use various tools, such as a vision scripts and "as if" statements, to rework subconscious beliefs. One of her most practical chapters offers 13 "sanity-saving strategies" that help readers deal with people they'd rather avoid, resist replaying old dramas, share gratitude, and conquer the usual snafus that trip people up. Ideal for the person who indulges in pity parties. (c) Copyright 2012. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

(c) Copyright Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.
Review by Kirkus Book Review

In her practical, hard-hitting yet realistic program for self-improvement, Renaye demonstrates that there's still plenty to say in the self-help industry. A professional life coach and transformational speaker, Renaye has created a concise, encyclopedic guide-cum-workbook that does the job of multiple existing titles, all while adding profound, useful insights and strategies to the conversation. She breaks self-exploration and retooling into manageable, sharply focused steps that help push the reader into honest reflection, emotional and physical health and, ultimately, empowerment and maturity. Though hints of other popular spiritual works shine through, such as the creation of vision boards to visualize what you want in life, the perspective is refreshingly grounded, and Renaye's confessional, empathetic narrative invites readers to identify with her while buying into her approaches. Each chapter focuses on a discrete issue or aspect of life--feeling stuck, body wisdom, living for others--and ends with a transformational insight worksheet (copying is advisable, since space is limited) with questions for self-analysis. Even without the worksheets, tripwires for aha moments run throughout the book. Recognizing that some difficult people are unavoidable, she prescribes stockpiling diversionary tactics in advance. She also lays out simple, sanity-saving strategies for navigating conversations, as well as tips for climbing out of inevitable dips in mood. She expands the vision board concept into a vision script that can help reprogram your thinking, with guidelines, precautions and sample language for recording. She calls her methods tough love, but they're also deeply human, compassionate and supportive. A self-help guide with real-world value and applicability, which proves it's never too late to grow up.]] Copyright Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

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Whether it's a personal relationship, a situation at work or simply something we know we need to deal with but don't, the longer we let it go, the harder it is to do what we need to do. We each put on our own particular brand of rose-colored glasses to make it easier to live with what we don't want to face. And before you even realize it, denial, delusion and procrastination become habits--even a way of life. I used to be the undisputed Queen of Denial. I was good, excellent even. When my husband and I divorced, most people were absolutely shocked. Not one person ever said, "Oh, we knew something was wrong." Nope. No one had any idea that all was not well in Happy Valley. We had "looked" like thAs it turned out, while my conscious self was busy making plans for a life that explored my highest potential, my subconscious programming was lurking in the background with a nasty little monkey wrench. In my case, it was a prime directive that trumped everything else. "Be all you can be" did not dictate my priorities and choices-"be married or die" did.I could say anything I wanted to, but if it didn't fit with my deeply held belief that without a man to validate me I was nothing, it wasn't going to happen. It couldn't. My self-worth-my worthiness to even be alive-depended on having a man, so I did whatever I had to in order to accomplish that. I gave up my education, my career, my dreams and my identity. Besides having to get married as soon as possible, which I did at eighteen, my programming also required that I stay married, no matter what. And I did-for decades. Only when the mental, emotional and physical pain became more than I could bear did I become willing to begin to admit that I was seriously unhappy with my marriage and my life. And only when the reality of staying married became more painful than the fear of dying if I wasn't did I finally become willing to consider a change. However, recognizing that I wanted things to be different didn't instantly fix things. My husband made it very clear that I was the one with the problem. He hadn't changed, I had; therefore, all the issues in the marriage were entirely on my shoulders and it was up to me to deal with them. He was right. Maybe not in the way he meant it, but right nonetheless. He was still the same person, doing the same things he always had. I was the one who had changed. I was the one who now didn't like the role I was playing and wanted more. And yes, it was up to me to deal with it... Excerpted from Living the Life You Love: The No-Nonsense Guide to Total Transformation by Paula Renaye All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.