Should I stay or should I go? : a guide to sorting out whether your relationship can--and should--be saved

Should I stay or should I go? A guide to sorting out whether your relationship can--and should--be saved

Lundy Bancroft

Book - 2011

""Is this what all couples go through?" "Do I expect too much from a relationship?" "Can my partner really change?" "Are there steps I can take to get my relationship back on course?" "When is it time to move on?" You're getting hurt over and over again, so should you stay or should you go? Every relationship has problems, but you can't figure out if yours is beyond hope. How bad is too bad--and can your man really change? Now, in this warm, supportive, and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and women's advocate JAC Patrissi offer a way for you to practically and realistically take stock of your relationship and move forward. If you...'re involved in a chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationship, the advice and exercises in this book will help you learn to - Tell the difference between a healthy--yet difficult--relationship and one that is really not working - Recognize the signs that your man has serious problems - Stop waiting to see what will happen--and make your own growth the top priority - Design a clear plan of action for you and your partner - Navigate the waters of a relationship that's improving - Prepare for life without him, even as you keep trying to make life work with him"--

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Subjects
Interpersonal relations.
Couples > Psychology.
Man-woman relationships.
Sex role.
Published
New York : Berkley Trade 2011.
Language
English
Main Author
Lundy Bancroft (-)
Other Authors
JAC Patrissi (-)
Physical Description
x, 417 p. ; 23 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9780425238899
Contents unavailable.
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Relationships usually reach the point where one partner must decide whether to leave or keep trying to make it work. This decision becomes more difficult as women (the book's target audience) negotiate relationships with partners who are abusive, mentally ill, addicted to drugs or alcohol, or seriously immature. This comprehensive book helps women learn how to establish boundaries, recognize the signs of these behaviors, decide how much they want to support their partners through their personal growth and finally, if they decide to leave, how to do so safely and effectively. Bancroft (Why Does He Do That?) and women's advocate Patrissi provide checklists that highlight behavioral differences between unhealthy relationships and those with normal communication and negotiation patterns. Though they briefly touch on the possibility that the woman is the problematic half, the book focuses on men with demonstrable issues. Women needing to check in objectively on their relationship's health will find this book quite useful, but those looking to improve an otherwise decent relationship will find scant details. (Nov.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

Review by Library Journal Review

Writing with the abused woman in mind, domestic violence specialists Bancroft (Why Does He Do That?) and Patrissi (founder, Vermont Victim Assistance Acad.) have written a comprehensive book that readers in troubled relationships can use to assess whether to stay or leave and steps for getting out. The authors help readers analyze the root issues-immaturity, addiction, mental health-and determine the gravity of the problem. They then guide them through setting rules for changing a salvageable relationship and even prepare them for what to expect when the relationship improves. The last section of the book details how to begin a new period of freedom, choose a new partner, and create a new relationship. Excellent guidance from respectable sources. (c) Copyright 2011. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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